sad birthday

[familyof7]

Hello all,
Today is my sons birthday he is 2 he is the youngest of 5. But it is also the sadest day of the year for me because my son had a twin who we also lost on this day 2 years ago. How am to be happy but still mourn. It really gets sadder every year

[sickandtired8]

Hello all,
Today is my sons birthday he is 2 he is the youngest of 5. But it is also the sadest day of the year for me because my son had a twin who we also lost on this day 2 years ago. How am to be happy but still mourn. It really gets sadder every year

I am so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine your pain. I cant say any words from experience but I will say that I am thinking of you and pray that time will help your pain. It must also make you feel guilty at times because you are happy that you have your child yet you lost the other. Is there a forum out there that deals with this situation that you could talk to somebody who has also gone thru the same ordeal? Find someone to talk to be it a counselor, friend, forum, etc. Hugs! M

[lrprn]

Anniversaries of a beloved's death can be so hard, fo7. This difficult day can also be a day of remembrance, getting out the photos, the baby blanket, talking about your baby and calling him/her by name. Painful? Yes. Healing? Yes.

When I lost a baby many years ago, a good friend sent me this quote tucked inside a card:

"Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean." - David Searls

I found a lot of comfort in these words. I hope they can comfort you a little too on this difficult day. <Hugs>

[$$only4ever]

familyof7:

I cannot even imagine how you must feel. All I can do is give you a big hug.

[thewife]

I am so sorry There is nothing harder than a parent losing a child. (((hugs))) to you today.

[HeatherB]

That must be so difficult. I don't even want to try to imagine how hard it would be. Here's a big hug for (((((you))))).

[familyof7]

Thankyou guys so so so much sometimes I just need to feel sad feeling sad makes me feel better maybe because it is something I try not to think about and sometimes I just need to let it out. I do feel a little better today.

[genseeker]

fo7, I kinda understand how you feel, having a birthday be a sad day as well. In 1999, I was staying with my parents to help care for them and hubby was driving a rig. I went into labor 2 weeks early and he was just getting to CA. So I had my parents go with me and insisted they stay with me. My dad even cut the cord. My mom held my daughter first and I noticed the clock on the wall. When my mom handed her over to my dad, I looked at them and said "Happy anniversary". It was a little after 1am and my daughter ended up born on their 28th anniversary. No matter how even my parents tried to treat all of their grand-kids, everyone knew my daughter was very special to my parents. In 2002, my daughter and I traveled back home to share the day with them and celebrate both their 30th wedding anniversary and her 3rd birthday.

In just a little over a week, my world shattered. My brother called and refused to talk to me, he just kept insisting he had to talk to my hubby. When my hubby was talking to him, I heard him ask to talk to my dad. I knew right then my mom was gone. To this day, I still don't remember the 6 hr drive back home. Sadly, just 16 months later, we lost my dad as well. So every year on my daughter's birthday, I hide the pain and grief from her so it doesn't ruin her birthday.

Just want you to know you are not alone, and we will all survive.

[guzzie]

sorry you have to bear this cross.... you are in my prayers as is the child who is in heaven....god bless you.....guzzie

[jane taylor]

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot imagine what that must be like for you.

Peace,
jane

[LilStevens]

Soul diesn't die, it just discards physical body for whatever karma/lessons were going on.

Many religions and yogis from the East are open to the idea of reincarnation and the soul is eternal.

In some religions, on special days, they put a plate of food out or flowers, etc, and offer it to the soul. Most of us, all we know is this physical world, and we suffer, because we forget our essence found in meditation. But even though I know this, it is even hard for me to meditate most of people I know want to hit the bars or play video games, etc. But in my saddest times, meditation and prayer (even sacred mantras), whatever religion, or beyond, has in some way always been uplifting.

*Sometimes I talk to loved ones in my family that killed themselves or to relatives I never got to meet but passed on (because they lived in another country). It just brings a peace to know their soul lives on and someday, I will be free of this physical body too. I have had dreams of being in lighter, ethereal body in astral-like world, and if it's anything like that, I hope stay there then reincarnate back on earth (;
I heard astral ice cream cones, though more subtle, are most Divine

[Minnymouth]

Its hard to loose loved ones, and twice as hard for a parent to loose a child......

Best part of it all - THEIR ONLY A THOUGHT AWAY......IN OUR MINDS AND IN OUR HEARTS!!