Paying for DS17's expenses pre-filing?

[keepsmiling]

Hope to be filing in a month or so... meanwhile have DS's senior expenses including pics, grad fees, prom, college apps, AND a youth group convention which HE is running that is going to be around $800.

DH insists these are "contemporaneous expenses" and therefore no issue, but I am doubtful. Am I "allowed" to pay for these (non-essential (?)) things or do I need to have DS use his little bit of savings and get a money order?

[Okieblue]

I'm there too, we are supposed to get the cap and gown paid for in Dec., but uh, really don't have it. My son said he wouldn't go to graduation. I did get his pictures atleast.

[keepsmiling]

So are these considered luxury items?
We have a little bit of savings we will need to use up anyway....

[dumpinmydebt]

I would tell him to get his own job if he wants these things or use up the savings (his savings) because they are non essential. I mean, if you wanted to, you could always pay him back sometime after your BK is closed.

He really needs to understand that you are in a financial bind and can only pay for expenses that the Trustee will see as necessary, which are regular living expenses. I understand they are sentimental things, but, the Trustee is not going to care for sentimental purchases totaling $800.