Let's just say my idea of a balanced monthly cash flow was making enough income to meet my minimum payment requirements on credit cards. We lived like this for years. We'd earn a bit more, our credit card limits would increase, we put everything on our cards and life was good. I could justify any purchase in the world if I could afford the minimum monthly payment required.
And then the economy went south. I took a paycut at work (not too too significant - about 6%), my husband didn't get the annual raise he was accustomed to receiving, and we found out we were pregnant all around the same time. That was 2009. We were faced with day care expenses again, and things tightened up. Then the credit card limits were either maxed out by us charging more, or by the banks slashing them to our current balance.
Either way, our available credit dried up over the course of a few months. That was when I made my first appointment to seek credit counciling. They determined that our cash flow deficit was huge, and I convinced them I could still afford the monthly payment plan they could put me on. That was in 2010.
That actually worked out for awhile, I made payments to them, they paid my credit cards and my interest was minimal. But 13 of 17 of my cards were closed. I utilized the other 4 open cards to pay for Christmas presents, and other expenses to help close the gap in our cash flow deficit.
I habitually paid off a 401K loan, only to retake it out again (to access more of it). I still thought eventually we'd be fine - when the secured debt was paid off. We had personal loans and car loans that would be paid off "eventually" and I just kept trying to make it through the short term. Last year, I took hardship withdrawals on my husband's 401K account to cover the cash flow deficit.
Then guess what? I find out I'm pregnant again (more daycare). Oh, and did I mention that I didn't pay up front any taxes from the 401K hardship withdrawals from last year?
This year, I decided a different approach. I took my cash flow and updated it with my real spending. Not the goals I thought I could reach. That was when I realized that with the increased day care and installment payment to the IRS (we have a installment loan that originated in 2008, and I've rolled into it ever since), that my secured debt that would be paid off within a year, wasn't going to cover it. I would have to take out another hardship withdrawal in 2012. And then what? I realized that every single "out" I thought I had, I had used up.
So a friend of mine said, why don't you just stop paying on your credit card debt, until you get some of this other stuff under control? I brushed off her comment with, oh, we'll be fine in a few months...
That was when I started doing research on the internet. And I felt like I was the perfect candidate for a Chapter 13 - a fresh start. No more 401K loans or hardship withdrawals. I met with a law firm and paralegal at the beginning of February and went over our situation in detail. I was told that since we owe more on our 1st mortgage than the house is worth, I could strip the junior liens we have (yes, we have not one, but two!). I should be able to include the 2008 portion of our IRS debt as unsecured, and also include our hospital bills for the baby that is due in May. That, plus surrender the timeshares we have (we were talked into not one or two, but three! Wow, we are weak.) Plus the credit card debt. Talk about getting a fresh start!
I am hopeful and looking at this as one of the best strategic financial decisions I could ever make. We are extremely blessed. We have a healthy family and steady income. I know I am lucky. This is why I am not letting myself get down about how really bad we are from a monitary standpoint. I really hope Chapter 13 is the right decision for us. We have been living off of cash exclusively (well - a debit card) since January and 95% cash since 2010) so I am 90% confident I can survive a 5 year payment plan.
Of course, I KNOW something could happen over the next 5 years that could throw all of this out the window. I won't think about that unless it happens.
Please, please, anyone that could give me any advice, I would be most grateful. We've only just started not paying on our credit card debt (FEB and MARCH) and junior liens (yes, I get 25+ calls per day) so I think we have some time here to pre-plan this BK.
My current goal is to attain a payment plan that I can truly afford. Any advice on pre-planning, would be gratefully accepted!
And good luck to the rest of you out there!
And then the economy went south. I took a paycut at work (not too too significant - about 6%), my husband didn't get the annual raise he was accustomed to receiving, and we found out we were pregnant all around the same time. That was 2009. We were faced with day care expenses again, and things tightened up. Then the credit card limits were either maxed out by us charging more, or by the banks slashing them to our current balance.
Either way, our available credit dried up over the course of a few months. That was when I made my first appointment to seek credit counciling. They determined that our cash flow deficit was huge, and I convinced them I could still afford the monthly payment plan they could put me on. That was in 2010.
That actually worked out for awhile, I made payments to them, they paid my credit cards and my interest was minimal. But 13 of 17 of my cards were closed. I utilized the other 4 open cards to pay for Christmas presents, and other expenses to help close the gap in our cash flow deficit.
I habitually paid off a 401K loan, only to retake it out again (to access more of it). I still thought eventually we'd be fine - when the secured debt was paid off. We had personal loans and car loans that would be paid off "eventually" and I just kept trying to make it through the short term. Last year, I took hardship withdrawals on my husband's 401K account to cover the cash flow deficit.
Then guess what? I find out I'm pregnant again (more daycare). Oh, and did I mention that I didn't pay up front any taxes from the 401K hardship withdrawals from last year?
This year, I decided a different approach. I took my cash flow and updated it with my real spending. Not the goals I thought I could reach. That was when I realized that with the increased day care and installment payment to the IRS (we have a installment loan that originated in 2008, and I've rolled into it ever since), that my secured debt that would be paid off within a year, wasn't going to cover it. I would have to take out another hardship withdrawal in 2012. And then what? I realized that every single "out" I thought I had, I had used up.
So a friend of mine said, why don't you just stop paying on your credit card debt, until you get some of this other stuff under control? I brushed off her comment with, oh, we'll be fine in a few months...
That was when I started doing research on the internet. And I felt like I was the perfect candidate for a Chapter 13 - a fresh start. No more 401K loans or hardship withdrawals. I met with a law firm and paralegal at the beginning of February and went over our situation in detail. I was told that since we owe more on our 1st mortgage than the house is worth, I could strip the junior liens we have (yes, we have not one, but two!). I should be able to include the 2008 portion of our IRS debt as unsecured, and also include our hospital bills for the baby that is due in May. That, plus surrender the timeshares we have (we were talked into not one or two, but three! Wow, we are weak.) Plus the credit card debt. Talk about getting a fresh start!
I am hopeful and looking at this as one of the best strategic financial decisions I could ever make. We are extremely blessed. We have a healthy family and steady income. I know I am lucky. This is why I am not letting myself get down about how really bad we are from a monitary standpoint. I really hope Chapter 13 is the right decision for us. We have been living off of cash exclusively (well - a debit card) since January and 95% cash since 2010) so I am 90% confident I can survive a 5 year payment plan.
Of course, I KNOW something could happen over the next 5 years that could throw all of this out the window. I won't think about that unless it happens.
Please, please, anyone that could give me any advice, I would be most grateful. We've only just started not paying on our credit card debt (FEB and MARCH) and junior liens (yes, I get 25+ calls per day) so I think we have some time here to pre-plan this BK.
My current goal is to attain a payment plan that I can truly afford. Any advice on pre-planning, would be gratefully accepted!
And good luck to the rest of you out there!
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