It's 3:20 in the morning, but based on my first attorney meeting, I can't sleep.
I am over the median with no chance at a 7. I am current on all my secured debts (1 car @349, mortgage @1744, 2nd mortgage @130), as well as my student loan ($413), but I finally ran out of money to pay the minimums on the CCs (I somehow have amassed $130k in cc debt). This was kind of a snowball effect when I was late by 1 day on 1 card about a year ago. That card raised my rate to 29%, and all the cards (but one) raised my rates, too. My minimum payments tripled, and I depleted all my savings to try to keep up with about 3500/mo in minimum payments. Starting 2 weeks ago, I am missing all of my cc payments (although none at 30 days yet). The calls from Chase have started twice per day.
Today I had a 1 hour consultation with the attorney, who has me confused and panicked. I know I didn't ask all the questions I should have, because I was shocked when he gave me feedback on my monthly expenses.
I have 3 kids (2 teenagers), so I was ready for him to push back when I mentioned my cell bill of $150, but I was not ready for him to tell me that 900/month for groceries, and 250/mo for clothing were way too much. (He thought 750 would be excessive for food. Have you tried to feed a 15-year old boy?!. We actually spend about 900/mo on groceries.) That's only 1150, and the IRS standards for the means test is 1633 for Food/clothing allowance for 5-person house. He said we'd be lucky to get $850 combined (food & clothing).
Then I told him that I planned on getting a new car (our minivan is falling apart). First he told me not to, but then told me that if I did, I should limit the payment to under $200/mo. I don't see how I can get a late-model, minivan with low miles for under $450/mo. I had just gotten approved for a CapitalOne Auto Finance "blank check" loan for 6.67% up to 30k, so I was thinking of getting a newer (<30k miles) minivan or SUV. He also said I couldn't get more than $250 for the maintenance/repairs total (even though I have more than one car. The car I am making payments on needs about $1000 of work, I have a 16-year old pickup truck with 250k miles that is worth $600 and is actually in good shape, and another 13-year old paid-for car that died in my driveway 4 months ago, and I haven't had the money to fix it. It's only worth $2000 (if it was running).
He said that the trustee in my district used to be a creditor's attorney, and heavily favors creditors.
I had been thinking that I could use coupons and buy bulk to save enough on food and clothing to cover the cell phone bill (which is really the only "luxury" that we have), and that the IRS auto allowances would help offset "unknown" expenses that come up, letting me build a little bit of a safety net in case the 45-year-old boiler finally blows up, etc.
I also have some much needed house repairs, including a leaking roof, no kitchen counters (been living on plywood!) and a blue tarp hanging off the side of the house where water damage took the siding. He told me no future house repairs beyond maybe $100/mo unless I get some estimates. Ok - I can do that.
Then he told me no, no, no on every kids' activity - little league, karate, soccer, school ski club, etc. It's bad enough that I messed up my expenses, but it absolutely kills me that my kids will have to suffer like that. I'm not asking for vacation trips to Disney. Just to have enough to let my daughters play softball, and my son to continue karate.
Instead of a fresh start, this feels much more like a punishment to my kids. I know it's my own fault for letting the cc's get out of hand. I've depleted all my savings and cut back on everything (except the cell phones).
I'm going to make an appointment with another attorney on Monday, but I am not too optimistic right now...
I am over the median with no chance at a 7. I am current on all my secured debts (1 car @349, mortgage @1744, 2nd mortgage @130), as well as my student loan ($413), but I finally ran out of money to pay the minimums on the CCs (I somehow have amassed $130k in cc debt). This was kind of a snowball effect when I was late by 1 day on 1 card about a year ago. That card raised my rate to 29%, and all the cards (but one) raised my rates, too. My minimum payments tripled, and I depleted all my savings to try to keep up with about 3500/mo in minimum payments. Starting 2 weeks ago, I am missing all of my cc payments (although none at 30 days yet). The calls from Chase have started twice per day.
Today I had a 1 hour consultation with the attorney, who has me confused and panicked. I know I didn't ask all the questions I should have, because I was shocked when he gave me feedback on my monthly expenses.
I have 3 kids (2 teenagers), so I was ready for him to push back when I mentioned my cell bill of $150, but I was not ready for him to tell me that 900/month for groceries, and 250/mo for clothing were way too much. (He thought 750 would be excessive for food. Have you tried to feed a 15-year old boy?!. We actually spend about 900/mo on groceries.) That's only 1150, and the IRS standards for the means test is 1633 for Food/clothing allowance for 5-person house. He said we'd be lucky to get $850 combined (food & clothing).
Then I told him that I planned on getting a new car (our minivan is falling apart). First he told me not to, but then told me that if I did, I should limit the payment to under $200/mo. I don't see how I can get a late-model, minivan with low miles for under $450/mo. I had just gotten approved for a CapitalOne Auto Finance "blank check" loan for 6.67% up to 30k, so I was thinking of getting a newer (<30k miles) minivan or SUV. He also said I couldn't get more than $250 for the maintenance/repairs total (even though I have more than one car. The car I am making payments on needs about $1000 of work, I have a 16-year old pickup truck with 250k miles that is worth $600 and is actually in good shape, and another 13-year old paid-for car that died in my driveway 4 months ago, and I haven't had the money to fix it. It's only worth $2000 (if it was running).
He said that the trustee in my district used to be a creditor's attorney, and heavily favors creditors.
I had been thinking that I could use coupons and buy bulk to save enough on food and clothing to cover the cell phone bill (which is really the only "luxury" that we have), and that the IRS auto allowances would help offset "unknown" expenses that come up, letting me build a little bit of a safety net in case the 45-year-old boiler finally blows up, etc.
I also have some much needed house repairs, including a leaking roof, no kitchen counters (been living on plywood!) and a blue tarp hanging off the side of the house where water damage took the siding. He told me no future house repairs beyond maybe $100/mo unless I get some estimates. Ok - I can do that.
Then he told me no, no, no on every kids' activity - little league, karate, soccer, school ski club, etc. It's bad enough that I messed up my expenses, but it absolutely kills me that my kids will have to suffer like that. I'm not asking for vacation trips to Disney. Just to have enough to let my daughters play softball, and my son to continue karate.
Instead of a fresh start, this feels much more like a punishment to my kids. I know it's my own fault for letting the cc's get out of hand. I've depleted all my savings and cut back on everything (except the cell phones).
I'm going to make an appointment with another attorney on Monday, but I am not too optimistic right now...
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