I have run out of money to pay towards my credit card debt. The only property I own is a mortgage on a $175,000 house, which has my husbands name on it too. I have had no luck finding a job yet. Should I just declare bankruptcy and move on? Should I take my name off the deed to the house and divorce my husband? I should add that has has abused me mentally and physically for 16 years. I want out of the marriage anyway. Thank You!!
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Do NOT do anything with the deed if you are planning on filing BK. You need to sit down and plan. You will have a period of perhaps several months of not paying the credit cards. Save that money toward a BK lawyer. As to the husband situation, you will need to decide which is more important first, a divorce or BK.
Many other members have divorced before, during, and after filing bankruptcy, so search around on some of the other threads for their stories.
Whatever you do, please don't do anything in 'panic mode'. Good luck and wishes to you."To go bravely forward is to invite a miracle."
"Worry is the darkroom where negatives are formed."
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Originally posted by merime View PostI have run out of money to pay towards my credit card debt. The only property I own is a mortgage on a $175,000 house, which has my husbands name on it too. I have had no luck finding a job yet. Should I just declare bankruptcy and move on? Should I take my name off the deed to the house and divorce my husband? I should add that has has abused me mentally and physically for 16 years. I want out of the marriage anyway. Thank You!!
How much credit card debt do you have? Does this include your husband's credit cards aso?
Do you own cars? Making payments? How long have you had them?
Are you collecting unemployment?Golden Jubilee was a year-long celebration held every 50 years in which all bondmen were freed, mortgaged lands were restored to the original owners, and land was left fallow: Lev. 25:8-17
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I'm sorry for your situation. It's not hopeless, even though I'm sure it feels that way. I wouldn't worry about the debt right now, there's not much they can do to you since you aren't employed. Do you have family you could stay with? I think the first thing you need to do is get yourself and your children in a safe environment. Check for support groups, a church, or any kind of organization in your area that provides help and resources for abused women. They can also help you find an attorney to help you get financial support from your husband and figure out a plan for the rest.
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Originally posted by hereforinfo View PostWait, I'm confused. The other post you have going right now is about your boyfriend and a bike you bought for him, where you state you have no property, etc. Now you are married and have a house in your name?
mom in debt - i am power of attorney (8/27)
no assets, income, or property (8/27)
no income, property, or vehicle (9/2)
abusive husband (9/3)
on deed of house (9/3)
con-man boyfriend took her for $6k+ (9/9)
owns $175k home (9/24)Filed CH13 - 06/2009
Confirmed - 01/2010
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Originally posted by merime View PostThank you, I agree. It all just feels so hopeless
Please ignore any users on this board who are grilling you, judging you or challenging you, or asking you to explain yourself too much. Most of us are here to help you get through this.
Going to talk to an attorney will help you feel like you are taking positive steps to build a safe and stable future. Don't do anything with your property until you talk to an attorney because transferring things close to filing bankruptcy will cause complications.
Let us know how your consultations with attorneys are going. Please come back often to tell us how things are working out so far.You can't take a picture of this. It's already gone. ~~Nate, Six Feet Under
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Yes, I have a husband in name only. He has never been there for me physically or emotionally. He has all the money. My name is on the deed, but it is not paid by me. Because he has so much money , I was able to get credit. Lots of it. Which I paid with the allowance he gave me. Then all the money ran out. My so called friend now has lost his job and cant even help pay towards the bike. Yes, I know how stupid I am and yes I have made unbelievable mistakes. If I could just run away I would, its all too much to bear. I just sit and cry , unable to move paralyzed by fear, shame and regret.
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Originally posted by merime View PostYes, I have a husband in name only. He has never been there for me physically or emotionally. He has all the money. My name is on the deed, but it is not paid by me. Because he has so much money , I was able to get credit. Lots of it. Which I paid with the allowance he gave me. Then all the money ran out. My so called friend now has lost his job and cant even help pay towards the bike. Yes, I know how stupid I am and yes I have made unbelievable mistakes. If I could just run away I would, its all too much to bear. I just sit and cry , unable to move paralyzed by fear, shame and regret.
You are taking positive action by coming to this board for help. Please just ignore any judgmental posts. Most of us want to help.You can't take a picture of this. It's already gone. ~~Nate, Six Feet Under
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As BTS mentioned, you're taking positive action. Addressing your financial predicament is only a fragment of all you're presently enduring; although, this may fall into the "what comes first, the chicken or the egg?" category. Understandably, the money issue can be readily resolved. You understand your options -they're systematic and predictable on many levels...unlike your relationship. As previously stated, your abusive relationship needs to be addressed as well. I truly hope the exploration of your financial issues spurs new confidence, hope, and motivation granting you the ability to overcome the personal challenges you face.
There are numerous resources available to you to aid in conquering your current challenges. Harness your desire for a "fresh start", suspend your feelings of shame, guilt, and regret, and free yourself from fear. We've all made mistakes. Mistakes offer us opportunities for growth.*Filed: September 23, 2009 *341: November 4, 2009 *Discharged: January 4, 2010 *Closed: January 20, 2010
Hakuna Matata...it means NO WORRIES!
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