"OBEY" in wedding vows...

[robivi3]

Half of all marriages may end up in divorce but NOT half of all married couples. A woman at work has been married 10 times and is currently married to a mechanic, the son of a family from the Kentucky Hills (sorry Min, no reflection on you at all) with really bad teeth, I mean the front two teeth stick out at a 45 degree angle, the son of one our mechanics who has had for thirty years OUTSTANDING dental coverage and MUCH higher than average pay. That has nothing to do with the subject, just a footnote.

I don't think this generalized stat takes into account multiple marriages.

[Kam]

My SO and I celebrated 20 years of marriage June 4th!

[lrprn]

My SO and I celebrated 20 years of marriage June 4th!

Happy anniversary, Kam!! Two decades and still together - quite an achievement - congratulations!

[Minnymouth]

It's not what is IN the wedding vows that will keep you together........ it's how you respect each other and the vows you do make......either bibical or your own....

Tin, I personally do not like the word "obey" either..... nor do I like the phrase "till death do us part"..................

I will never in my lifetime promise a man I will "obey" him or stay with him "till death do us part"..........

I will treat one with love, honor, respect, devotion and submit within reason..... but OBEY - not gonna happen......... not in my lifetime!

Till death due us part can be a lifetime.............. My parents spent 35 years together waiting on one of them to die........... they didn't believe in divorce and found out till death due us part was A VERY LONG, FRUSTRATING TIME!!!
BOTH WASTED THEIR LIVES.........taking their anger and frutstrations out on each other and everyone all around them......

So there are many ways to look at the wording of the marriage vows, standard ones and bibical.

Marriage should not be taken lightly, you are supposed to be choosing a partner for life...... It's a shame that lust and passion rule our decisions sometimes, cause some of us make very bad decisions when it comes to our partners in life. How quickly lust and passion can fade away...

Once the new of marriage fades away, we often find we have very little in common with our partners..... and we start growing apart.....

Many marriages are "one-sided"...... one gives, the other takes.....

Marriage is the bonding/sharing of two bodies, minds, souls, and spirits to form a "family" of "companionship and partnership"...... hopefully for a lifetime..

Every marriage walks a "bumpy road" at one time or another and have many "pitstops" along the way..... people are only human..... How we handle these bumpy roads and pitstops determine whether our marriages are good or failures.

Being married means "we", "us", and "our" plays the most important roles. The terms "I", "me", and "you"....... lay quietly to the side most of the time...

Marriage does not mean you loose or forget your own identity.....you will always be an individual with your own thoughts and ideas about things. You will always have "your opinion"..... BUT that doesn't mean that your opinion is always the "right one"!!!

Marriage's these days are dissolved too easily. Most have very little commitment to them..... The attitude is "if it don't work, we'll divorce"......

Love doesn't come around very often in your lifetime..... course many of you may not know that......... True love is even harder to find in life......

Yes, companionship can be found easily..... but "the love of your life"..... we're not given very many chances on finding that!!

Tin, find out now how your new spouse "feels" about the word obey........ the rest of your life may depend on it..... Now is the time that a lot of true feelings about things need to be brought out into the open and discussed....

Just my thoughts, take them for what they are worth - absolutely nothing!!

[Minnymouth]

PS I had an uncle that was married 7 times - 4 tmes he married the same wife (with other wives inbetween).......
Guess he couldn't decide whether she was the love of his life or not.......
And how ironic, he was single when he died.

[robivi3]

Same thing almost here. my aunt and uncle four times, finally stuck on the fourth try. She even dated "Mr. Whipple" (please don't squeeze the Charmin)in between.

[robivi3]

Alright, does anyone disagree? Speak up, all this agreein' ain't no fun. Someone pull out the guns, draw the line, whatever...

where are the "obey" folks hidin'... one thing about them "obediencers" there ain't none of that "spousal abuse", what with all the obeyin' goin' on!

OK, I know that there could be some good responses, no offense intended, just wanted to jump start things.

[Minnymouth]

WELL PERSONALLY,

I feel like some people SHOULD NEVER GET MARRIED................. they are and would be doing someone a BIG FAVOR by staying single................

And Robivi3,

I don't mind any better as an adult then I did as a kid,,,,,,,,,,,,,LOL

My thoughts...........

[anonymuse]

I think there should be an option that marriage is a 5-year committment with an option to renew every 5 years. (Had to throw that in there--by best friend told me that once since she feels like people change and they fell out of love, but doesn't want to leave her husband since she knows how much it would hurt him.)

[robivi3]

Especially "furniture turner overers", had a step-mother who liked tantrums and "furniture turner overin" back in the seventies. Of course the tantrums did not surface until she got holt of Daddy's bank account but didn't get her way all the time. She also played "small car bashin" with the Cadillac daddy bought her when she took to "road ragin' " one day on Arthur Godfrey Road and Pine Tree Drive on Miami Beach. She rammed that big Eldorado into some poor smartasses Chevy Vega and I'll never forget when the 72 Democratic Convention came to town and a "member" of the SCLC put out his "non-local" hand in front of her Buick Skylark and I'll never forget her saying, "damned I wish I'd driven the Cadillac today", and she would have done it, believe me (they were prepping for an SCLC march, she was NOT a supporter and new the cops weren't as well)!

Yes, Min, some folks ain't cut out for marriage!

[robivi3]

Incidentally, she worked for the newspaper and owned a PR business and we lived four houses down from the Chief of Police so the poor guy in the Vega was escorted "gingerly" to say the least from the Beach by the local boys in blue.
Different time those days, course it's still sorta like that. the Vega never saw the light of day again.

[Jeffrey]

Don't see what the big deal is... My wife and I said Obey in our wedding vows. To each there own I guess.