Just need to talk

[justagirl]

Hi everyone. I just need to vent for a minute, just having a rough few weeks and need to scream, whine and cry for a bit...lol.

The past few weeks have been rough for me. My work has cut my hours - in fact cut all of our hours. I still have enough to pay bills and buy food...but I no longer can put money in my savings - and what money I have saved isn't going to last long if anything unexpected pops up.

The faucet on my kitchen sink broke, and that is when I discovered there is no emergency shutoff valve under the sink. We had to turn it off at the main hookup, which then proceeded to break off when we turned it and shot water all over the place...did I mention it was about 15 degrees out at the time???? Got the valve fixed, managed to get the faucet to shut off but haven't replaced it yet. Washing dishes is a blast...carrying buckets of hot water from the bathroom to fill up the kitchen sink, carrying more buckets to rinse the dishes.

My mother called me today and informed me that the engine is about to go in her car - it will barely climb up hills and lets out a lot of exhaust smoke while running. So now they will be without transportation...we don't have public transportation in our area...no way to doctor's visits, to the store, etc. I will help as much as possible, let them use my car when I can, I have no problem with that, but it makes things so rough. Because of my work schedule, my mother is the one that gets my son to afterschool activities and such things. Now I'm not sure what is going to happen. They cannot get a loan and do not have cash on hand to buy another car. It's not like I'm in a position to help them out. How I wish I could help them... I think that is what bothers me the most - my parents have done so much to help me, gone without so many times...and I can't help them when it is needed. They are on a fixed income since my father had a stroke several years ago...and since then it is like they can't catch a break - one thing after another, just sinking and barely making it by each month...and I can't help them - and that hurts.

There are many more little things...but it really just seems petty and whiney to go on.

Thanks for letting me vent. It feels good to just get it out. I know things will turn around...things always find a way to work out - I just can't see it right now...but it will come.

~JAG

[FLBK7]

You need a big hug. Consider yourself mega-hugged! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

You were discharged from a CH7 only recently. It takes a while to recover, both emotionally and financially. You yourself acknowledge that things WILL work out eventually. Try to focus on the one-day-at-a-time approach to problems and focus all your energy on positive thoughts. This quote from Paolo Coehlo's "The Alchemist" comes to mind:

"When you want something, the whole Universe conspires to help you."

Good luck and please let us know how you are doing!

[Pizza]

I understand your frustration and admire you for venting the anger. As a general rule, I've noticed that things always happen at the worst possible time. Hope it all works out for you.

[espo1357]

Sorry to hear about your situation.

This is the place to vent. Good, smart, people, that share a common situation. Most of us here have been broken to some extent (I have from my mortage and mortage company lying to me over and over).

but, in the end, I ended up stronger and smarter from all of this. A better businessman. For one thing, I lost most of my respect towards outsiders. People have to prove themselves to me now, where in the past I would give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were good. Not anymore. I assume the person is a snake until proven otherwise.

People have to be tested. And those that stand the test of time, with honesty and integrity are my friends for life.

The rest can crawl back in their hole and get ready for there date with hell.

lol.

hang in there sir/madam. you will be a better person when all this is done. God still is looking after you, even when He seems distant.

[Pizza]

If it's any comfort, we live better than the bushpeople, and the bushpeople live better than the cavemen.

[justagirl]

Thanks everyone for your support and kind words.

Things are so much better for me than they were pre-BK, so I can't complain about that. I do know that things will get better, there are always ups and downs...and everything always seems to happen at once!

I feel so much better now, more calm...and some of my problems are already presenting solutions, so I feel like I can breathe now...and I can see a way through all of the junk!

Thanks again for listening!

~JAG