Since dad died last week my brother-in-law has been a total jack****. Much to my surprise I found out that my mom and dad did not have life insurance and had only paid $1,300.00 into a pre-paid burial plan.
For some reason my mom(whose 80) was under the impression that their church was going to pay for all the funeral cost. This was not the case and the church called my sister on Wednesday to say that they just did not have $6,000.00 to cover the cost (there are only 30 members at the church). Sis called me and said that they didn't have the money and my husband and I had to come up with it. They just assume since my husband owns a business that we have unlimited cash available. We had the money, but it was customer money that was needed to buy materials. So now we are in a bind. They could really care less. Anyway, we paid the money and just decided that if my sister and her husband would pay at least $1,300.00 my husband would just work harder to sell more jobs to make up the difference.
Well, on Friday after the funeral my brother-in-law suddenly took an interest in my dad's truck as well as his gun collection. Now mind you my brother-in-law never gave my dad the time of day. He said that it bothered him how dad liked to sit around and tell the same stories over and over again (what a jerk).
He never once visited dad in the hospital.
On Sunday my sister called to say that her husband was researching the value of dad's truck and guns and that if they were sold that they would cover their half of the funeral expense as well as other expenses that my husband and I had taken care of. I came unglued, how in the heck does he think that selling property that does not even belong to him wipeout his debt. I was screaming at him on the phone I could not believe his nerve. I said that any money that was made off of selling dad's things needed to go into an account for mom or when she died we would be in the same boat. Needless to say he didn't agree.
Now the reason my parents were in such a financial mess was that my sister was always borrowing money from them for some reason or another and never paying it back. She has nearly lost her house every year for the last 20 years (no kidding) she has always been at least 2 payments behind. They are now in a ch13 and she still refuses to change her spending habits. They even sent both of their kids away to universities that they couldn't afford (mine goes to community college).
Anyway, I was sitting at my computer this afternoon when I heard a car pull up. The dogs starting barking like crazy and someone started pounding on my door. I froze. I couldn't get up to look out the window or they would have seen me. The pounding went on for 10min before they went to to front door and started ringing the doorbell and knocking on the windows. I was able to look out the window and noticed my brother-in-laws company truck. I finally called my sister to find out what he wanted and she said that he was trying to bring me money. I told her that he needed to get off my property or I would call the police. What I can't understand is why he is so angry, we don't owe him any money and never have.
I just hate the fact that we are now arguing at such a sad and stressful time. Dad would have really been devastated by all of this.
Sorry for this long post, but I needed to get this out.
For some reason my mom(whose 80) was under the impression that their church was going to pay for all the funeral cost. This was not the case and the church called my sister on Wednesday to say that they just did not have $6,000.00 to cover the cost (there are only 30 members at the church). Sis called me and said that they didn't have the money and my husband and I had to come up with it. They just assume since my husband owns a business that we have unlimited cash available. We had the money, but it was customer money that was needed to buy materials. So now we are in a bind. They could really care less. Anyway, we paid the money and just decided that if my sister and her husband would pay at least $1,300.00 my husband would just work harder to sell more jobs to make up the difference.
Well, on Friday after the funeral my brother-in-law suddenly took an interest in my dad's truck as well as his gun collection. Now mind you my brother-in-law never gave my dad the time of day. He said that it bothered him how dad liked to sit around and tell the same stories over and over again (what a jerk).
He never once visited dad in the hospital.
On Sunday my sister called to say that her husband was researching the value of dad's truck and guns and that if they were sold that they would cover their half of the funeral expense as well as other expenses that my husband and I had taken care of. I came unglued, how in the heck does he think that selling property that does not even belong to him wipeout his debt. I was screaming at him on the phone I could not believe his nerve. I said that any money that was made off of selling dad's things needed to go into an account for mom or when she died we would be in the same boat. Needless to say he didn't agree.
Now the reason my parents were in such a financial mess was that my sister was always borrowing money from them for some reason or another and never paying it back. She has nearly lost her house every year for the last 20 years (no kidding) she has always been at least 2 payments behind. They are now in a ch13 and she still refuses to change her spending habits. They even sent both of their kids away to universities that they couldn't afford (mine goes to community college).
Anyway, I was sitting at my computer this afternoon when I heard a car pull up. The dogs starting barking like crazy and someone started pounding on my door. I froze. I couldn't get up to look out the window or they would have seen me. The pounding went on for 10min before they went to to front door and started ringing the doorbell and knocking on the windows. I was able to look out the window and noticed my brother-in-laws company truck. I finally called my sister to find out what he wanted and she said that he was trying to bring me money. I told her that he needed to get off my property or I would call the police. What I can't understand is why he is so angry, we don't owe him any money and never have.
I just hate the fact that we are now arguing at such a sad and stressful time. Dad would have really been devastated by all of this.
Sorry for this long post, but I needed to get this out.
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