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    My Mother passed away this morning.

    It's been a long time coming, really -- she's been in a nursing home since shortly after my dad died in 2000. We were surprised she lived this long, after 2-3 strokes. Honestly because she was in a vegetative-like state for such a long time, I considered her lost long ago. She was 87.

    She adopted me and raised me, the youngest of 5 children, one other adopted sister. I can't say we had the greatest relationship, but I will always appreciate all she did for me.. the opportunities provided throught the years.

    I'll be going to TN this week to say goodbye. It'll be good to see the family, I never talk to them much because of the distance and busy lives.

    It sounds horrible to even talk about this now, but regarding our financial situation, I have no idea what this means and where we go from here. I had thought about this happening but didn't expect it. I have no idea about the estate. I emailed my attorney and asked what to do since we were planning to file at the end of the month.
    "You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy."
    6/16/08: Attorney approached lenders to surrender old home
    8/26/08: Met w/attorney RE: filing BK
    9/29/08: Filing Chapter 7

    #2
    I am so sorry to hear this news. ***HUGGS***
    "To go bravely forward is to invite a miracle."

    "Worry is the darkroom where negatives are formed."

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      #3
      A hug to warm your heart and a prayer to ease your mind!!

      You said you were adopted along with another sibling.

      What a special woman she was to open her heart and home to you and another. It takes a "special woman" to adopt children.

      Though your relationship might/or might not have been rocky (even blood relationships are rocky too), you were very "special" that someone opened their home and heart to raise you.

      Go home and put her to rest. She has suffered enough over the last few years and you should be "relieved" for her.

      Enjoy visiting with your family and hopefully you all will stay on good terms over the years.

      Yes, as soon as I got back I would have a conference with your attorney and see how this will affect your filing. Often they do take any and all inheirtance when you get them.

      Minny
      Minny

      "It's amazing the paths that our feet sometimes follow in life".

      My suggestions are from "personal experience" and research only. Do not consider this as legal advice. Each bankruptcy case is different.

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        #4
        I am truly sorry. My heart goes out to you and you will be in my prayers.
        Filed Chapter 7 (Primarily Business Expenses) 04/10/2008 FICO 468 :cry:
        341 on 05/06/08:unsure:House appraisal on day 63:blink: 07/10/2008 Discharged-Asset Case!!!:yahoo:08/09 Transu 559, Equifax 636, Experian 647
        Case Closed 07/15/2009 :D:yahoo:

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          #5
          I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother...my heart is with you as I went through something very similar with my mother who passed away last August after also being in a nursing home for several years. We could not bring her home due to her situation/illness. Your mother will live on in and with you for the rest of your life in all she did for and taught you. You should smile with that thought and keep it with you always.
          _________________________________________
          Filed 5 Year Chapter 13: April 2002
          Early Buy-Out: April 2006
          Discharge: August 2006

          "A credit card is a snake in your pocket"

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            #6
            Originally posted by Frogge View Post
            It's been a long time coming, really -- she's been in a nursing home since shortly after my dad died in 2000. We were surprised she lived this long, after 2-3 strokes. Honestly because she was in a vegetative-like state for such a long time, I considered her lost long ago. She was 87.
            I'm so sorry, Frogge. My mom died 25 years ago, when I was 22, but she'd had a series of strokes starting nine years before that, and she was also in long-term care for the last three years of that. I do understand that horrible indefinite mourning.

            You'll be in my thoughts.
            Last edited by WoodSprite; 09-08-2008, 10:32 AM.
            Filed chapter 7: June 9, 2008
            341 meeting: July 18, 2008
            last day for objections: September 16, 2008
            DISCHARGED September 18, 2008 - CLOSED September 29, 2008

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              #7
              I am so sorry to hear. My thoughts and prayers go out to you in this time of need.
              Filed Chapter 13 05/23/08
              Converted to Chapter 7 Jan 2012
              Discharged April 2012

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                #8
                I could not say this better than Minnie. Perhaps a blessing, but the loss is still hard to take. 'Hub





                Originally posted by Minnymouth View Post
                A hug to warm your heart and a prayer to ease your mind!!

                You said you were adopted along with another sibling.

                What a special woman she was to open her heart and home to you and another. It takes a "special woman" to adopt children.

                Though your relationship might/or might not have been rocky (even blood relationships are rocky too), you were very "special" that someone opened their home and heart to raise you.

                Go home and put her to rest. She has suffered enough over the last few years and you should be "relieved" for her.

                Enjoy visiting with your family and hopefully you all will stay on good terms over the years.

                Yes, as soon as I got back I would have a conference with your attorney and see how this will affect your filing. Often they do take any and all inheirtance when you get them.

                Minny
                If I knew it all, would I be here?? Hang in there = Retained attorney 8-06, Filed 12-28-07, Discharge 8-13-08, Finally CLOSED 11-3-09, 3-31-10 AP Dismissed, Informed by incompetent lawyer of CLOSED status, October 14, 2010.

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                  #9
                  Frogge, I am so sorry that you are going through all this and now have lost your mother. I can only imagine how you must feel and my heart goes out to you. Praying God's blessings on you and strength to get through all this...
                  Filed Ch 7 -- July 9, 2008
                  341 mtg ---- August 14, 2008
                  Discharged ---- October 17, 2008
                  Closed --------- December 11, 2009!

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                    #10
                    Im so sorry, but I hope in your heart you know she is smiling down on you and watching over you. If she was in a veg. state then she isnt anymore and bless her heart shes better off. Good luck and Im so sorry. I know how I would feel if my Mom died and I would be at a loss. Please make sure you do talk to you attorney..If you get any $$ 6 months after filing (looks like you havent yet) they will snatch it..

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                      #11
                      Sorry to hear you are going thru this. You are on my prayers.

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Frogge View Post
                        It's been a long time coming, really -- she's been in a nursing home since shortly after my dad died in 2000. We were surprised she lived this long, after 2-3 strokes. Honestly because she was in a vegetative-like state for such a long time, I considered her lost long ago. She was 87.

                        She adopted me and raised me, the youngest of 5 children, one other adopted sister. I can't say we had the greatest relationship, but I will always appreciate all she did for me.. the opportunities provided throught the years.

                        I'll be going to TN this week to say goodbye. It'll be good to see the family, I never talk to them much because of the distance and busy lives.

                        It sounds horrible to even talk about this now, but regarding our financial situation, I have no idea what this means and where we go from here. I had thought about this happening but didn't expect it. I have no idea about the estate. I emailed my attorney and asked what to do since we were planning to file at the end of the month.
                        I am so sorry for your loss. My mom passed last year at 82 and I still miss her alot. I guess it's a pain that will never go away, thats what love is...
                        pa308 (equifax fico 6-21 471) 594 on 3-09 671 7-09
                        filed ch7 6-12
                        341 7-25
                        Discharged and closed 9-24

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                          #13
                          Thank you so much

                          I stayed home from work today, I booked a flight and talked to friends and family all day on the phone. The good thing about mother passing is that all these people will be coming together again, to reflect, catch up, and remember her as well.

                          I'm happy to be going Wednesday. The drive from Atlanta to Knoxville will be a long one, and probably emotional as I'll be alone, but I know I'll have a huge network of folks to be with when I get there.

                          Thanks guys, you are also my 'network'.
                          "You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy."
                          6/16/08: Attorney approached lenders to surrender old home
                          8/26/08: Met w/attorney RE: filing BK
                          9/29/08: Filing Chapter 7

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                            #14
                            Oh hon, I'm so sorry! My condolences to you and your family.

                            Originally posted by Frogge View Post
                            It sounds horrible to even talk about this now, but regarding our financial situation, I have no idea what this means and where we go from here. I had thought about this happening but didn't expect it. I have no idea about the estate. I emailed my attorney and asked what to do since we were planning to file at the end of the month.
                            It's a valid question, certainly. I'm glad that you're in a position to travel to TN for the funeral and such.

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                              #15
                              You know, luckily... I had within .5 ponts on my AirTran card to get a free one-way flight, and I purchased the credit for $39. So, my ticket cost me around $200 ---with 2 days notice. Delta ---who I was told still offered 'bereavement' flights... quoted me $1350 for a round-trip ticket. Thanks! but no thanks.. But, then did some research to find out about my AirTran credits and got a deal. I think bereavement flights are a thing of the past.
                              "You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy."
                              6/16/08: Attorney approached lenders to surrender old home
                              8/26/08: Met w/attorney RE: filing BK
                              9/29/08: Filing Chapter 7

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