Look what I got Thursday morning

[B12]

Sorry arkie, no, it does not make sense to me, lol. No such thing as steps and halves. A kid is a kid is a kid. And you gotta love them.

[sickandtired8]

Thanks to everyone.
This is my first "blood related" grand. Even though I adopted her daddy, she is MINE. No other woman can claim to be her grandma on dad's side except me. I have to admit being very proud, in a way that I wasn't with my step daughter. I always thought I loved her like my own kids...... until now. I realize that because I didn't have a hand in raising her except for the last few of her teen years, I just don't feel quite the same. I love my 2 grands by her, don't get me wrong, but there is a tiny bit of difference that I will have to fight and be sure it doesn't come out. Does that make sense????

Doesnt make sense to me....blood or not, adopted or biological, a baby is a baby. Love is thicker than blood in my book. Congrats on the beautiful new baby! S&T

[Minnymouth]

Arkienurse, being from a family where there were lots of step grand kids, I understand what your saying.... That first born of "blood related" is always special for some reason..... It's like the "circle of life" has come full-circle!!!! You don't have to share the spotlight with several other grandmas..... Some kids have 4 sets of grandparents these days.....

My mom treated all the grandkids the same, yet, she called them grandkids and step grandkids...... so the step grandkids always seemed second fiddle to the others. Years later after they were grown they still mentioned they were "step" grandkids!!
Though grandma didn't mean to actually show a difference, it often showed up in conversations..... grandkids and step grandkids......

The first born and the baby of the family are always "special"...... being the middle child "sucks".................. I was a middle child!!!

Enjoy the new grandchild, I know you love the others just as much, maybe just in a little different way.............

[B12]

I am always amazed, having 3 kids, that people over the years ask me whom my favorite kid is.

Choosing a favorite or special kid is like choosing which finger I want to cut off.

[whatamess]

YAH! Good news,a baby is such a blessing. Congrats Grandma!! Suck up every minute spoiling that baby with love.
WAM
PS: HeatherB..my girls had no hair until 3 1/2!!! Everyone said "What cute BOYS you have!!" Dressed in pink dresses?????

[arkienurse]

Sorry arkie, no, it does not make sense to me, lol. No such thing as steps and halves. A kid is a kid is a kid. And you gotta love them.

See, that is what I always thought too. I get mad when people try to differentiate btween my kids/stepkids in conversations with me. So maybe that tiny difference in feeling has to do with being there when this one was born. I wasn't able to be there with the other 2 grands. I do know that I will never knowingly make a difference. I have a very good role model to follow on that. My stepmom treats all of us kids the same, and she has always treated all the grands the same, whether they were her steps or blood.

[arkienurse]

Doesnt make sense to me....blood or not, adopted or biological, a baby is a baby. Love is thicker than blood in my book. Congrats on the beautiful new baby! S&T

Yeah, it is all coming into perspective now with the passge of time.

[arkienurse]

Arkienurse, being from a family where there were lots of step grand kids, I understand what your saying.... That first born of "blood related" is always special for some reason..... It's like the "circle of life" has come full-circle!!!! You don't have to share the spotlight with several other grandmas..... Some kids have 4 sets of grandparents these days.....

My mom treated all the grandkids the same, yet, she called them grandkids and step grandkids...... so the step grandkids always seemed second fiddle to the others. Years later after they were grown they still mentioned they were "step" grandkids!!
Though grandma didn't mean to actually show a difference, it often showed up in conversations..... grandkids and step grandkids......

The first born and the baby of the family are always "special"...... being the middle child "sucks".................. I was a middle child!!!

Enjoy the new grandchild, I know you love the others just as much, maybe just in a little different way.............

That would suck to always be mentioned as the stepgrand. My mom and step mom have always been good at not making that distinction with my kids, even before I adopted the boys, and before I had the girls. I guess the new is wearing off and I am coming more into perspective about my grandkids. I do wonder if that difference I felt last week is because I was actually there when Trinity was born. Hailey was born way out in Virginia Beach, didn't get to meet her until she was 10 months old. Matthew was way up in the northern part of the state, didn't meet him until he was 18 months.

My Izzy doesn't want to be the caboose of the family, she wishes she was the line leader ( school terms of how they line up at Preschool)

[B12]

Arkie, your step mom defines the meaning of mother.

[arkienurse]

Arkie, your step mom defines the meaning of mother.

You know, right after my parents split, those would have been fightin words. I have come to realize though, both through Carolyn, my step mom, and being a step mom myself, that some women are able to love another's child as much as their own. I have no problem now introducing her as my mom. I no longer make the distinction to strangers. My dad dated 2 women after my mom left him, and he married the one we liked the least. Years an life have told us that he made the best choice, both for himself and for us. She is really a wonderful person, and I have no doubt that she cares about us and loves us as much as our own mother does. After all, she has chosen me, over her own kids, to be sure that my stepbrother, Tommy, is taken care of if something ever happens to her and my dad. And I have made the tentative decision that if anything ever happens to me and DH at the same time that I want my stepsister and her husband to take care of my girls rather than my brother. I just feel in my heart that they will do a better job than he would, much as that will hurt his feelings if it ever come to that.

[Minnymouth]

arkienurse,

Yep, being there when the wee-one was born makes a big difference in our feelings towards them..... Its like you "began" life with them from the moment they took that first breath. The other kids were older and you weren't there when they were born..... so "being there" made this one a little extra special.......

Yeah, some of the old folks called step-kids also "step grandkids" - never just grandkids...... and the children never forgot it, either.... SHAME............ (both my brothers married women with children and then had their own too.....) Shame, but my mom was one who really MADE A DIFFERENCE between them..... I had to really watch her at Christmas buying presents..... as I told her those kids are "kids" too..... YOU DON'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEM FOR ANY REASON.........
My mom's excuse was they already had grandparents..... I come back with "now they have an extra set, huh!!!). I hated it when she start making a difference in them.......made me so mad....my brothers too!!! Been many a fight between my brothers and their mom over step-children..... where she always made a difference in them....

Love and enjoy that new baby.......................a baby is a baby, is a baby.........etc.