So how do I convince my husband that I'm real glad he helped pay his mom's house off almost 10 years ago with an accident settlement, but that money he borrowed her (supposed to be paid back) needs to come NOW?
We are facing losing one our vehicles, eviction from our townhome, etc etc etc.
We have a young child.
That money would make all the money problems go away. And without money problems, our lives are virtually perfect. We only argue about money. We only get depressed about money. or rather, the lack there of.
If we could pay off the debts we owe, pay off our vehicles, we would be fine. We would be comfortable. We'd be at a place were we could have savings and probably vacation with our daughter once a year. Even more importantly, we could plan to add that second child to our family as we would like to do so badly but cannot because of finances.
I know it's his mom. I don't want to come across as this evil daughter in law. I LIKE my mother in law (minus this issue...)
But doesnt it come to a point that if you can make a TRUELY better life for your "new" family (wife & child)-a place to live, no BK, etc- that you do it? That he tell his mom, hey, instead of us finding ways to try and have a place to live at all, why dont you find a way to get us that money? (home equity loan, whatever).
It's not a massive amount, but absolutely life changing for us- about $20,000. So it's not as if it's her entire house value.
So....?
We are facing losing one our vehicles, eviction from our townhome, etc etc etc.
We have a young child.
That money would make all the money problems go away. And without money problems, our lives are virtually perfect. We only argue about money. We only get depressed about money. or rather, the lack there of.
If we could pay off the debts we owe, pay off our vehicles, we would be fine. We would be comfortable. We'd be at a place were we could have savings and probably vacation with our daughter once a year. Even more importantly, we could plan to add that second child to our family as we would like to do so badly but cannot because of finances.
I know it's his mom. I don't want to come across as this evil daughter in law. I LIKE my mother in law (minus this issue...)
But doesnt it come to a point that if you can make a TRUELY better life for your "new" family (wife & child)-a place to live, no BK, etc- that you do it? That he tell his mom, hey, instead of us finding ways to try and have a place to live at all, why dont you find a way to get us that money? (home equity loan, whatever).
It's not a massive amount, but absolutely life changing for us- about $20,000. So it's not as if it's her entire house value.
So....?
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