Need to gripe!! Personal, non bk problems. Very long
I know this is rambling, and I don't expect anyone to make it through to the end, but I have a need to get it off my chest.
I believe I posted earlier this year that my step daughter and her family were living with us temporarily. Well, they got the SSD settlement payment they were waiting on and bought a cheap trailer that DH allowed them to place next door to us. I like getting to know the grandson that I had only seen 2x before they moved back( he turned 3 after they moved in with us). But------
The SS payment was a one time until the drs determine if Son in law is permanently disabled( which they did this week- so now paperwork has to process for a few months and his check will start). StepDD has been getting a disability check from the military and that is ALL the $$ they have coming in, in addition to food stamps and WIC. I absolutely do not mind her "borrowing" any sort of food stuffs, but jesh, at least let me know you did it. I am always coming in and she forgot oil or flour. My tinfoil and ziplocks come up missing everytime she gets her stamps and goes grocery shopping., not to mention that I am forever having to retrieve my cooking gear.
And they both manage to find the money for smokes. They almost live on the front porch smoking. Which is a good thing that they are outside at least, grandson has asthma.
But what really bugs me is this:
DS is home from college for the summer. He is working a very hot job at the local sawmill, rather than the job he had last summer which entailed a drive into town every day(9miles one way). He has a dorm fridge in his room and keeps it stocked with his own sodas and snacks, as I don't keep sodas for the kids. Next door has found out about this and will come over and get sodas when theirs is run out and no stamps left for the month. It is so bad that he bought mountain dew this time instead of the dr pepper and coke that he actually likes, because they don't like MD. He has asked them not to get his drinks, but they come over during the day when only my 13 and 4 year olds are home. I am ready to get him a key lock on his door, which is something I swore I would never allow my kids to have as long as they are living under MY roof.
Then, she got her disability money yesterday. She had hot checks to pick up at the local mom and pop grocery. So what do they do????????? They go and buy a dog. They already have 2 dogs and 2 cats, and borrow our dog and cat food to get through the month when they run out. Yet another mouth to feed. The kicker that has me so peeved- They actually had the nerve to ask DS if they could borrow money from him last night., the same day she got her check. It is all gone until the end of next month. And his brother moved in with them and just quit his job last week because he got shorted a few hours on his check. Without having a replacement lined up!!!
Ive tried to talk to them about budgeting, to no avail, they see no reason to budget because he is going to start receiveing his check soon, and grandson will get a check too.
Sorry, I just needed to gripe and get it out of my system. Here I am struggling along, working extra hours at work, away from my girls that need me home more, just to make ends meet, and it galls me to see they are trying to work the system for all it can give them, and are seemingly ok with the fact that they will be on a limited income for the rest of their lives, and that neither one of them can afford to pay their child support obligations to his 4 yr old and her 10 yr old. Grandson's clothes are usually too big for him, because if I find something in the next size at a yard sale, or if someone else gives him clothes, she puts them on him, no matter how big they are on him.
Sigh, groan,
Ok , I am through now
Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
I believe I posted earlier this year that my step daughter and her family were living with us temporarily. Well, they got the SSD settlement payment they were waiting on and bought a cheap trailer that DH allowed them to place next door to us. I like getting to know the grandson that I had only seen 2x before they moved back( he turned 3 after they moved in with us). But------
The SS payment was a one time until the drs determine if Son in law is permanently disabled( which they did this week- so now paperwork has to process for a few months and his check will start). StepDD has been getting a disability check from the military and that is ALL the $$ they have coming in, in addition to food stamps and WIC. I absolutely do not mind her "borrowing" any sort of food stuffs, but jesh, at least let me know you did it. I am always coming in and she forgot oil or flour. My tinfoil and ziplocks come up missing everytime she gets her stamps and goes grocery shopping., not to mention that I am forever having to retrieve my cooking gear.
And they both manage to find the money for smokes. They almost live on the front porch smoking. Which is a good thing that they are outside at least, grandson has asthma.
But what really bugs me is this:
DS is home from college for the summer. He is working a very hot job at the local sawmill, rather than the job he had last summer which entailed a drive into town every day(9miles one way). He has a dorm fridge in his room and keeps it stocked with his own sodas and snacks, as I don't keep sodas for the kids. Next door has found out about this and will come over and get sodas when theirs is run out and no stamps left for the month. It is so bad that he bought mountain dew this time instead of the dr pepper and coke that he actually likes, because they don't like MD. He has asked them not to get his drinks, but they come over during the day when only my 13 and 4 year olds are home. I am ready to get him a key lock on his door, which is something I swore I would never allow my kids to have as long as they are living under MY roof.
Then, she got her disability money yesterday. She had hot checks to pick up at the local mom and pop grocery. So what do they do????????? They go and buy a dog. They already have 2 dogs and 2 cats, and borrow our dog and cat food to get through the month when they run out. Yet another mouth to feed. The kicker that has me so peeved- They actually had the nerve to ask DS if they could borrow money from him last night., the same day she got her check. It is all gone until the end of next month. And his brother moved in with them and just quit his job last week because he got shorted a few hours on his check. Without having a replacement lined up!!!
Ive tried to talk to them about budgeting, to no avail, they see no reason to budget because he is going to start receiveing his check soon, and grandson will get a check too.
Sorry, I just needed to gripe and get it out of my system. Here I am struggling along, working extra hours at work, away from my girls that need me home more, just to make ends meet, and it galls me to see they are trying to work the system for all it can give them, and are seemingly ok with the fact that they will be on a limited income for the rest of their lives, and that neither one of them can afford to pay their child support obligations to his 4 yr old and her 10 yr old. Grandson's clothes are usually too big for him, because if I find something in the next size at a yard sale, or if someone else gives him clothes, she puts them on him, no matter how big they are on him.
Sigh, groan,
Ok , I am through now
Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
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