I had the mother of all divorces (hence my screen name). It took a year from start to finish (which I know isn't awful, but it took me giving in on a lot of things to get it finished faster).
Fast forward to today. The ex owed me money for closing our son's college fund. We were both paying for it up until the final mediation session where he stated he didn't want to pay it anymore. I gave in bc in Florida, you cannot make a parent contribute to college funds so I would have lost in court. The ex decided to close the account (he was in control of it even though I paid every single payment from my personal checking account). He was supposed to give me half of the money. He never did. He avoided me time in and time out when I would ask questions about it. He played games with me for weeks about the money. He finally told me he had all the money and that I was getting none of it.
As part of our divorce settlement, I am to provide him with information about certain things. I am withholding that information until he pays me the money he owes me. He knows that I"m doing this although I haven't come out and told him I am. I refuse to speak to him anymore unless I have to now that he stole that money from me. I did tell him that he wouldn't be happy with me if he failed to pay me what he owed. Guess he didn't take me seriously.
He is threatening to hold me in contempt because I'm not telling him the info. I just wonder how long that whole process takes and what it will involve for him. He will undoubtedly have to contact his divorce lawyer and I know he doesn't have any money to do this so I"m wondering if he will go this route anyway. I plan to tell him that until he pays me what is owed to me, I refuse to tell him what he wants to know and which is required of me. That he can spend the money he owes me to MAKE me tell him in court and then have to pay me the money anyway b/c it's rightfully half mine (which I will argue and win in court) or he can just pay me what he owes me now, I give him the info and it's the end of the story. I'm calling his bluff so to speak. I am so tired of him threatening me and harrassing me. Sure, it's okay for him to withhold from me, but when it's time for me to give him something he wants, he wants it now.
So, anyone been held in contempt? What happens, what can I expect to happen?
Fast forward to today. The ex owed me money for closing our son's college fund. We were both paying for it up until the final mediation session where he stated he didn't want to pay it anymore. I gave in bc in Florida, you cannot make a parent contribute to college funds so I would have lost in court. The ex decided to close the account (he was in control of it even though I paid every single payment from my personal checking account). He was supposed to give me half of the money. He never did. He avoided me time in and time out when I would ask questions about it. He played games with me for weeks about the money. He finally told me he had all the money and that I was getting none of it.
As part of our divorce settlement, I am to provide him with information about certain things. I am withholding that information until he pays me the money he owes me. He knows that I"m doing this although I haven't come out and told him I am. I refuse to speak to him anymore unless I have to now that he stole that money from me. I did tell him that he wouldn't be happy with me if he failed to pay me what he owed. Guess he didn't take me seriously.
He is threatening to hold me in contempt because I'm not telling him the info. I just wonder how long that whole process takes and what it will involve for him. He will undoubtedly have to contact his divorce lawyer and I know he doesn't have any money to do this so I"m wondering if he will go this route anyway. I plan to tell him that until he pays me what is owed to me, I refuse to tell him what he wants to know and which is required of me. That he can spend the money he owes me to MAKE me tell him in court and then have to pay me the money anyway b/c it's rightfully half mine (which I will argue and win in court) or he can just pay me what he owes me now, I give him the info and it's the end of the story. I'm calling his bluff so to speak. I am so tired of him threatening me and harrassing me. Sure, it's okay for him to withhold from me, but when it's time for me to give him something he wants, he wants it now.
So, anyone been held in contempt? What happens, what can I expect to happen?
12/04/07 -case pulled for random audit.
12/18/07 -341 held: Asset case due to engagement ring & tax return.
02/19/08 - US trustee files motion to extend.
04/02/08- changed back to NO ASSET! I get my ring back and get to keep my tax return! :clapping: 04/28/08 -DISCHARGED!!! :yahoo::yahoo: 05/07/08 - CLOSED!!!
..In my husbands situation that is not the case, and it does not just effect him, it effects me and all the kids in our household as well, and adds alot of undo stress. Everyone is different and every ones mental stability is different too. What one thinks is delusional behavior another thinks is "normal"/fine behavior. It is always easier to criticize when on the outside looking in, I can say from experience, it sucks huge for all involved in these messes. So, Good Luck to all who have to live this way! I think she did the right thing in that situation everyday, do what ya gotta go!! They ALWAYS think they are above the law and she just used a "loop hole" you go!!
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