This whole marriage thing...

[tinroofrusted]

Also Tin, make sure you both are sleeping in the same bed, preferably naked! I agree to not use sex as a weapon, however, men are physical creatures and maybe he can't be all wordy with how he is feeling, he might be able to physically show you that he still wants you, just is having a hard time with something. It's hard to get over feelings of rejection so really encourage him back in your bed if he's not already.

You have some great advice here. I will think of you often and hope you find a new job that makes you happier. It's amazing how a bad job can bring you down. Good luck hun.

it is way too cold now to be sleeping naked! ;) We are talking mid-October in Michigan!

On the other hand, we had a nice dinner last night, and we did talk about a few things. I think it would help too, if he were to get out from under working for his Daddy, and actually get a job that he could accomplish something at, and feel good about himself! That's part of his problem also.

BTW- My BK has been over and done with for 2 years!!! I have finally hit that two year mark, and am excited about that. Hard to believe I have been here almost that long too.

You guys are great though!

[anonymuse]

Tin, we really appreciate you sticking around so long to lend your knowledge and advice since most BKers leave after their discharge.

[Minnymouth]

Has to be hard on your spouse working for dear old Dad........ parents always treat you like a kid (and really don't mean too - but they forget)........

If you say anything about his job or against his job - your talking about dear old Dad - bad mistake......

That's something he will have to deal with or find another that is more fullfilling for him.......

Some people can carry on the family tradition, some can't.......

Glad your talking and trying to work things out....... and a quiet dinner date is often the best time....... just you and him.......

By the way, girlfriend, get out the flannel sheets and down comforter, slide in "butt naked" and believe me you will NEVER KNOW its cold in Michigan in the winter......LOL

Minny

[Credit Hater]

I hope things are going better for you Tin. I didn't know what to say when I first read your post, so I waited to see if things improved. It takes two, thats for sure and you have already made a HUGE step in saying your job is stressing you out and maybe thats affecting your mood towards him. A new marriage seems to me it could be kind of stressful too, not exactly in a bad way, but just the changes and adjustments to living and sharing with another person. Only time can help getting through the adjustments....of course communication helps too, so be sure to say whats on your mind and tell him to do the same. Holding things in only makes it harder to talk about as time passes.

[HRx]

I personally think the comittment of marriage is a beautiful thing. Despite the rediculously high divorce rate of today!

[tinroofrusted]

I personally think the comittment of marriage is a beautiful thing. Despite the rediculously high divorce rate of today!

I completely agree.

But I also think that there are people out there, who should never marry, and who should never have children; they are just so obviously not suited for that lifestyle, but they try to do it anyway, and it's a disaster.

[AMISLANDER]

Listen...

...I can't even talk to my boyfriend first thing in the morning/and/or on the way when I drop him off at work...you have never met a more grouchy, insulting, person...(but you know with men, that's cause they're upset about something....or their place in the world)...I don't know...I never fought with my xhusband...my boyfriend & do have fights but we work "through" them instead of around them...and if he brought on the problem, he will apologize...but I have to give him that space in which to do it...it's the NC of the day time...(no contact)....he was an *ss this morning but finally called me at quarter to 4 this afternoon, all apologetic...

What do I know...just better to let it go...leave...when the frustrations mount up because, believe me, I could unleash a flury of obnoxiousnous but it would be very hurtfull and it wouldn't make anything better except me letting my meaness out when he's the one that started the incident...so today, I kept a lid on it....

[Minnymouth]

Tin,

How's it going now???? Peace in the household??? Dinner dates??? Gradually adjusting to the new married life???

See you found a new job to help with some of the stress relief.......

Keep us posted......