Help me with my 11 year old

[AMISLANDER]

I second this one....

Tell him to ask Grandma for the money for the Hyatt, or leave him at home with her!

I know, easy for me to say, right? I have no kids. I feel for all of you that have teenagers, it would KILL me!

Oh my god, my ex mil was a nightmare when she came to stay when each of my sons were born...however, I know she meant well but her ways were different than mine....I should have just walked around the house naked like my friends told me...but, seriously, let Grandma front on this one....plus, here, in FL, the motel 6's & 8's although usually cheap, sometimes amazingly clean...can be a bit "moldy"...as in the A/C and when that blows in the room when you're all trying to sleep...it does get into your system...

It's probably not like you're going to be in the room all day, but even 8 hours of spores blown into one's body is not healthy...that's why those rooms have a tendency to smell weird...that ole Florida mold smell...so Grandma would certainly not want her precious to get "the mold" right?

My first son will be 11 next year, he can be "sneaky" evil...I've seen it, but he can also be a real gentleman...when not around his 22 month younger brother....

[chmastal]

I'd stand up to your meddling MIL & let her know..."Do you want me to treat you like you are teaching my son to treat me???" Respect goes all the way around in a household. Obviousely your MIL has no respect for you & she is teaching your son to disprespect you also. Just what is she doing there anyway, sounds to me she needs to hit the road, but if she has a physical need for care from you let her know "that your home & the rules of your home obviously aren't good enough for her & she should go live at the Hyatt on her credit cards & hire herself a live in nurse that she can put down, at least the nurse would be getting paid for it!!!"

[Minnymouth]

The hardest thing in life is living in a house with another woman around..... (even if its your own mother) and it has to be a "nightmare" with a MIL around. I sure don't envy you all any....

I spent many years with my mom in her later years when she was ill and bed ridden....... a real challenge!!! She's gone now and I cherish the time I did spend with her, though extremely hard every day.....

A grandparent that "overrides" your authority can make life very hard and raising kids very hard. You gotta set some "gound rules" for grandma/grandpa.... and stick to them......... Sometimes you have to "remind" them WHOSE kids they are...... And yes, kids will "play" grandparents against parents.... works for them!!!!

A "meddling" relative not only puts a strain on the marriage, family unit, but also creates a constant disturbance in the home.....

Those of you that live with "inlaws" - you have my respect and admiration....

[JusticeForAll]

MinnyMouth, you are so wise! I'd love to share a cup of coffee with you, I bet you're just really fun to be around and just a great all-around person

[Minnymouth]

Thanks, am laid-back (a Gemini), easy going, even tempered, and patience of a "saint"...... Lots of experience in "life and living" and very "street wise"..... I have been my own keeper all of my life taking the "good, the bad, and the ugly" all in stride. Try not to let anything get me down, stay in good spirits 99% of the time (though bankruptcy was a "killer" for me)....

Love people, love kids, love animals. Treat folks like I would like to be treated, but if you make me an enemy - I'M ONE FOR LIFE!!

I stand my ground, defend my rights, and I believe whats right is right and what's wrong is wrong..... and try to make all decisions wisely as a bad decision I pay the price dearly.

The Good Book helps guide me thru my life......

I like to think I'm a well-rounded person in life, with good values, and a kind heart towards my fellowman. Will help anyone, till they take advantage of the situation...... then the help is OVER. Have opened my home to many over the years who needed a place to stay..... (fortunately, only one ever caused me grief).....

I think I'm a GOOD PERSON, and I believe my circle of friends and co-workers think so also....

Now you know all about me...... LOL

Minny