So, how much respect do Pro Se filers get anyway?

[free2breathe]

Great to know!

I've had several sleepless nights thus far worrying myself senseless that I've done something wrong, missed something, somewhere along the line, and it's pushed the limits of my sanity more than once, lol. But you say that they appreciate mature people who take this seriously...I have no problems there...if I've done anything wrong it's be TOO serious and worry about things that do not need to be worried about.

Yep, that's the MO! I have earned the nickname "A.R." more than once in my life. But I have to say, being anal during this process earned us a discharge. My husband thought I was crazy to analyze every single line on the petition and then worry about it for days. In the end, I'm certainly glad I remained AR!

[sscott4775]

My girlfriend pretty much takes the same position that you say your husband did...she worries at times that I'm obsessed and that it's not healthy, but I scrutinized every single line multiple times before filing so I could (try) to sleep comfortably at night. I too am glad I took the position I did and like I said it's carried me pretty well thus far.
I think what's bothering me now if the fear of the unknown regarding my upcoming 341. The courthouse is about 45 minutes away and we don't have the gas money to spare to make a trip over there to look at other meetings, so I'm not going to have the benefit of seeing other meetings beforehand, but there's nothing in my case to warrant any kind of worry so I'm trying to remain confident all will be well.

[free2breathe]

I can totally relate! Our 341 was held in a town about an hour and a half away. It just wasn't feesible to go sit in and listen to any ahead of time. I gained my confidence from reading about everyone else's 341s here. I was still nervous, of course, but not nearly as nervous as I would have been going in completely blind.

I had episodes of panic where I wondered if the trustee would slap me across my knuckles with a ruler for messing up a comma on the form or something...I know, totally irrational, but there it was. My husband did commend me on the petition when he realized I was sending 72 pages to the court to be filed. He understands completely now why attorneys charge big bucks even for simple cases. I think when we get on our feet and have some money to spare, I'll bill my husband accordingly. I'm thinking a really nice dinner out, maybe a little weekend getaway. LOL, I think I've earned it!

[sscott4775]

I can totally relate! Our 341 was held in a town about an hour and a half away. It just wasn't feesible to go sit in and listen to any ahead of time. I gained my confidence from reading about everyone else's 341s here. I was still nervous, of course, but not nearly as nervous as I would have been going in completely blind.

I had episodes of panic where I wondered if the trustee would slap me across my knuckles with a ruler for messing up a comma on the form or something...I know, totally irrational, but there it was. My husband did commend me on the petition when he realized I was sending 72 pages to the court to be filed. He understands completely now why attorneys charge big bucks even for simple cases. I think when we get on our feet and have some money to spare, I'll bill my husband accordingly. I'm thinking a really nice dinner out, maybe a little weekend getaway. LOL, I think I've earned it!

I think you've earned it as well!! Your fears sound so much like mine...afraid of being reprimanded by the trustee, then there's nothing to be reprimanded about. My confidence is still shaky, but I keep visiting the 341 forums and reading about people's successful meetings and it helps ground me back to reality and realize that this is not the apocalyptic scenario I'm playing out in my head.

Hope you enjoy that dinner or weekend getaway when it comes around!

[PoorNow]

I had no issues. The trustee and the court employees didnt seem to think anything of it at all. I did feel very good about handling it all myself and saving the money. I did get some free advice from a bankruptcy trustee that we know, so that was very helpful. I also handled my divorce pro se over 10 years ago and that is another thing that made me feel good. It feels good to be able to get into the codes and laws and figure it out! And save myself some money in the long run.

[Craig316]

The trustee was definately not happy that I was a pro se filer. He made it quite clear that I (along with the one other pro se) would be last to go. When he looked at my petition he asked me several times if someone had helped me. I was missing one document (a "registered copy" of my mortgage) and apologized that they had not been clear when requesting documents. He even said it was their fault, and complemented me on how professionally-done my petition was.