I've been a watcher for quite awhile & read some of the good advice on the forum and decided that I will ask for suggestions on my situation.
I've been married for about 10 years with 2 kids. Unfortunately, i've always been the one in charge of paying the bills in the household and she just wanted to turn a blind eye to anything. Until this month, both of our credit scores were above 700, but I expect a big change next month. I didn't want to actually face it, but we have been operating at a negative each month for a long time. There was always something to keep us going, a tax refund, a stimulus check, an insurance claim that we pocketed a little money on, always something until this year. For the first time ever, we owe on our taxes in the amount of $1200. I decided that this was going to be the month where something didn't get paid, frankly because there wasn't anymore money besides the paycheck every 2 weeks. It was so hard to do, I felt so bad, but it had to be done. I totaled up all that we owe and was shocked to see that we owed $65k in CC and still owed $14 in student loans, accounting for $2k a month, just making the minimum payments. We are current (well within the same month) on our mortgage and owe roughly $116k on the house that is worth $150k or so. We recently leased 2 new cars because our other vehicles were also leases that were way over on mileage, so the only way that we could get rid of them w/o having to give them the vehicle and $5k that we didn't have, we rolled it into new ones.
Prior to my decision to stop paying this month, the only way that we could make some payments on time depending on their due date was selling gift cards on an auction site (stupid...yes I know, but cheaper than payday loans) and waiting until I got paid to buy them and send them out. We both have full time jobs and make decent money now, but all of this debt was accumulated back many years ago and we've been paying minimums and not making any progress on the balances.
On top of all of our financial obligations, I am ready to move out of the house because of some other problems within the household that are for another type of website. If we did file bankruptcy, it would only make sense to file before getting divorced so we could save money and make it easier to split whatever is left. It's really sad when you have a very good reason to leave a marriage, but you just can't afford to do what is right. I look at some of the decisions that i've made in my life and ask myself, "what we're you thinking?"
I've been married for about 10 years with 2 kids. Unfortunately, i've always been the one in charge of paying the bills in the household and she just wanted to turn a blind eye to anything. Until this month, both of our credit scores were above 700, but I expect a big change next month. I didn't want to actually face it, but we have been operating at a negative each month for a long time. There was always something to keep us going, a tax refund, a stimulus check, an insurance claim that we pocketed a little money on, always something until this year. For the first time ever, we owe on our taxes in the amount of $1200. I decided that this was going to be the month where something didn't get paid, frankly because there wasn't anymore money besides the paycheck every 2 weeks. It was so hard to do, I felt so bad, but it had to be done. I totaled up all that we owe and was shocked to see that we owed $65k in CC and still owed $14 in student loans, accounting for $2k a month, just making the minimum payments. We are current (well within the same month) on our mortgage and owe roughly $116k on the house that is worth $150k or so. We recently leased 2 new cars because our other vehicles were also leases that were way over on mileage, so the only way that we could get rid of them w/o having to give them the vehicle and $5k that we didn't have, we rolled it into new ones.
Prior to my decision to stop paying this month, the only way that we could make some payments on time depending on their due date was selling gift cards on an auction site (stupid...yes I know, but cheaper than payday loans) and waiting until I got paid to buy them and send them out. We both have full time jobs and make decent money now, but all of this debt was accumulated back many years ago and we've been paying minimums and not making any progress on the balances.
On top of all of our financial obligations, I am ready to move out of the house because of some other problems within the household that are for another type of website. If we did file bankruptcy, it would only make sense to file before getting divorced so we could save money and make it easier to split whatever is left. It's really sad when you have a very good reason to leave a marriage, but you just can't afford to do what is right. I look at some of the decisions that i've made in my life and ask myself, "what we're you thinking?"
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