Pro Se in NJ (no pun intended)

[whipster1]

Good luck, sounds like you have a lot on your plate to take care of. God blesses those who help others.

[music12]

kornellred, would it be possible for him to volunteer somewhere? in the right place, he would be treated with more respect, and with some luck it could eventually lead to a job. just thought i'd throw it out there, i am guessing though that you have already thought of everything including this.

oh, another thought: never give up, and don't let him give up! that's advice to myself too, so...

[jribe]

I'm sorry to hear that; i know that can be difficult.

Has anyone looked into state disablity or something of the sort? I know here in CA if you can't work for a reason such as that; you typically will qualify, or something through social security as well.

Just a thought; i don't know if that helps- but any income would be good!

A word to all the respondents who had something to say about my son's life situation: he has had behavioral problems since early childhood. He has ADHD, OCD, and a mild form of Tourette's Syndrome. He is good looking and has had a long succession of girlfriends who invariably leave him when they discover that they are unable to manipulate him or get him to change his behavior. He has a police record which prevents him from getting any kind of decent employment that offers a future. Most of the jobs that he has had are menial, hard labor jobs that do not pay very well and where co-workers tend to be confrontational - a situation he cannot tolerate. The combination of low pay, hard work and having to deal with low-IQ people gives him very little incentive to abide in that fashion. He once asked me if I knew of a way to stop the noise in his brain without firing a bullet into it. We often laugh together and we both admit that despite the fact that life has not been exactly kind to either of us (or his mother and our other children) it is far too interesting to let go of just yet. He has tried medication, but is completely unable to tolerate anything that is available - he becomes ill or turns into a zombie. He does not smoke, drink, or use illegal drugs of any kind.

How did an unemployed 26 year old get 80K in debt? Mostly due to a complicated series of automobile acquisitions that finally got him behind the wheel of a very fast, very beautiful sports car worth about $50k, which he should never have been able to get his hands on but did anyway. When it finally got repossessed it was practically worthless, so the title holders could not get very much for it.

Anyhow - I can understand they way most people would feel about this very difficult life situation. I did not know that there is a pro se forum available here. But now I do, and got some great advice to boot!

By the way - I myself am in Chapter 13. This is my second bankruptcy - a situation which was basically a "fate accompli" (unsure of the spelling - it's a French term for a done deal) long, long before it came to fruition. Make of that what you will.