How to list expenses when I'm a housewife...

[whattodo]

Well, this is strange, I'm going through an online full service firm and they just emailed me back last night, and said to list only my income and all of the expenses such as rent, etc.

I hope I hired the right company, anybody else use Bridgeport Bankruptcy?

[herekitty]

Some people have had okay reviews with them, there was one negative post about an experience. Try doing a search under Bridgeport.

[EdytaHome]

Wow, this is too scary. Your situation sounds a lot like mine. See my recent post in "everything but BK" section. I am all alone since my husbands drives a truck for a living, when he gets home he does the usual, play for an hour or two with my daughter than run off to do something very important. I feel like a prisoner sometimes, I love my little girl soooo... much, but I think every adult needs to be able to open their mouth to another adult. I don't have any support on his part, he thinks of me nothing more than a babysitter, I truly believe that.
OK, because there is physical and mental abuse going on in our home (last time he put his hands on me was Friday, my 3 year old hid under the kitchen table), I looked into a shelter for women and children. I called them and they told me to pack a bag and be ready to leave if it happened again. The thing is that the physical abuse comes every 4 or 6 months, now that it has happened again I think it will be OK for a while. It's definitively a pattern. During this time I plan on getting a job, which has proven to be rather difficult. If I can't get a good job I will go into a shelter and ask for help. From what I understand they would help me get an apartment and so on. I could possibly go back to school for a change in carrier, if good employment is not available.
I guess I'm trying to give you advise. Remember, abuse doesn't have to be physical! The fact that you were hospitalized or diagnosed with depression should be enough proof there is something going on. Try to get back on your feet using the system, that's what it's for. I can't believe I'm thinking about it myself but at this point it may be the only thing I got. I've been out of work for almost a year, I'm in a new state, with no friends and family around. I think this is how he really likes it anyway.
Sorry this is long but hopefully it makes sense and it will help.
Good luck.

[deepindebt]

Your'e right your husband is a verbal abuser and has done evil things to you. Please sit down and decide what is best for you, divorce or BK.
You sound to me that you are a giver and not a taker. It is time to start thinking about yourself, your mental health, and son. Not what your husband controls you into thinking. Take control over your life and your child. It is in your best interest.
Having him around for the money, in my eyes isn't in your best option. Your happiness and your well being is the the most important!!!!!

[StaciMM]

If you allow him to move in with you, even for a day, you'll need a court order to keep him away. (Even if his name isn't on the lease.)

Dulled senses. Yup. I guess you are right. That sums it up, you are so right.

I usually think of abuse as physical, not financial.

Right after I left my job to stay home with my son (4 years ago), he gave me an AMEX card with a 500.00 limit per month for household expenses. I would end up spending 600-700 each month going over the limit for this reason or that. So, after a year, he cut off the card and told me I was financially irresponsible.

That is when I started my own little biz making and selling candles.

As for divorce... most of my friends ask me to if its at all possible to "try" and make it work out with him for my son's sake. My son is 7. But I am so physically and emotionally repulsed by him, that I can't even stand to be in the same room with him. We have slept in separate rooms for several years.

I was served by the sheriff 2 days ago, that one of my creditors is suing me. It's just financially getting bad for me.

This may sound evil, but I've really had it. I'm thinking that I can rent a place. Have him move in with us and pay the security deposit and get all the utilities on, etc. Move only the basic furniture and get rid of the rest in a moving sale. File bankruptcy, then, after a month or two after finding a job, file for divorce. In my own thinking, if the court gives me custody, btw I am a very good loving mother, that I should be allowed child support and/or alimony which will be more than nothing that I'm getting now. I feel all I basically need is a roof over our head, and I'll pay for things with cash until my credit gets better in a year or two.

I feel it's easier to remove him when the rental lease will be in my name only, and the bare minimum furniture, which he hates anyway, will probably stay.

After divorcing him, the time he spends with our son may be filled more with quality time than his usual pat on the head and playing a game or two with him like he does now.

Anybody thinks this sounds like a plan?