This might be long, I'll try to make it short but I am bad about that. lol
My husband lost his job in Oct 2007. He was unable to get a new job because he was leaving for an Army school (reserves) in Feb 08 for 5mos. No one would hire him with him leaving. So we had to use credit to get us by a few months. He couldn't get hired even at Target... too qualified. So he left in Feb and was sent home in March because he broke his ribs during training. They sent him home without pay... to no civilian job waiting for him. We filled out a package for them to pay him for the 1.5mos he was home injured until he was declared "better". (still waiting on that btw) He had to just sit around and heal without an income until June when we was to go back and try again. So he went back in June and his ribs weren't ready to be kicked and they were re-injured. Sigh. Again... in July they sent him home without pay. Injured. Unable to work. We told them we weren't doing this again and he was done with the reserves. We couldn't afford to do this if they weren't even going to take care of him. After he was healed again he tried and tried to find a job. In this economy this is really hard! He finally found a job in Ohio (we are in Wisconsin) and he has been living there since the end of September.
During this last year we increased our credit card debt to around 70k due to having to pay our mortgage with credit. Our house isn't even worth what we owe on it and we didn't even get a risky loan. So we couldn't sell it.
Plan was to get the house ready to sell over winter and list in Spring. Then join him.
So now we have my husband in Ohio... paying for him to live there. Also paying for our mortgage and our insane 1k a month in credit card bills. He makes 60.5k a year before overtime... we get a decent pay now. But it's just not enough. We are separated for nothing. His pay can't even cover all *our* bills... nevermind paying for him to live there. So something has to go. Since we need to join him there anyway we finally decided to give up the house and just go rent a house there now. Keep paying the credit cards. It would have made me feel good not to get out of all of our debt. I have always had very strong feelings about this.
But when it comes down to it... trying to pay 70k of credit card bills forever is very daunting as well. We can't afford any services for our 8yr old son with Autism. Everyone, even die hard Ramsey fans have told us that we should just do Bankruptcy and get it over with. I am at the point where I agree with them. Just have to admit that this past year ruined us but it can get better.
Now... one problem I have is this...
We can't file in Ohio until 91dys of us living there. It will be 3mos on January 1st for hubby. Not sure if it has to be both of us living there for 3mos? Anyway... we are wanting to move us there around December 1st when he gets his next paycheck. He gets paid once a month. So this means we just sit around waiting till January to file. But looking at the exemptions... it's all confusing to me. It doesn't look like Ohio has as many exemptions as Wisconsin. I wouldn't worry about this too much except for the fact I have several sewing machines. We have our laptops and my camera. I use these for my sewing business. Well, business that is more of a hobby but brings in some money. Ohio doesn't have a federal exemption which seems to make Wisconsin look better. We have a house but it is upside down... does this mean we could use the unused homestead portion towards our extra stuff? We have a minivan that we plan to reaffirm to keep making the payments on.
We aren't behind in anything. I actually was planning to stop making our credit card and house payments this month so that we could have money to move into our new rental in Ohio at the 1st of the month. We also will need money for the attorney to file in January.
But do you guys think it would be worth it to bust our butts to file before January and do it here in Wisconsin instead? Or do you think we will be ok exemptions wise in Ohio?
I'm just really nervous. We made a lot of cash advances on our cards to our bank. But we can show that we paid our mortgage and other bills from our bank so would that be proof that we didn't just use the cash for stupid stuff? We did eat fast food a lot. We were depressed Do they make a big deal about that?
What will happen if we don't have enough exemptions to use towards my sewing machines and laptop? Will they just take those?
Sorry sooo sorry this was so long. I always feel the need to give background. I still struggle with the fact we are even doing this and I don't want people thinking we just went and bought a lot of toys and now want to wipe it all around. We were just trying to stay in our house and survive
Thanks for your suggestions and opinions
ETA that I'm also confused about what happens after we stop making our payments. We will be having a lot of extra money. I know we will have money saved up for the attorney but what do I do with the rest? Because I read that we can't have it in the bank right? Would I be able to take that opportunity to buy special needs items for my child without them saying anything about it? Or will that be bad? We shouldn't have a *whole* lot of extra in two months time... but maybe 2k.
C
My husband lost his job in Oct 2007. He was unable to get a new job because he was leaving for an Army school (reserves) in Feb 08 for 5mos. No one would hire him with him leaving. So we had to use credit to get us by a few months. He couldn't get hired even at Target... too qualified. So he left in Feb and was sent home in March because he broke his ribs during training. They sent him home without pay... to no civilian job waiting for him. We filled out a package for them to pay him for the 1.5mos he was home injured until he was declared "better". (still waiting on that btw) He had to just sit around and heal without an income until June when we was to go back and try again. So he went back in June and his ribs weren't ready to be kicked and they were re-injured. Sigh. Again... in July they sent him home without pay. Injured. Unable to work. We told them we weren't doing this again and he was done with the reserves. We couldn't afford to do this if they weren't even going to take care of him. After he was healed again he tried and tried to find a job. In this economy this is really hard! He finally found a job in Ohio (we are in Wisconsin) and he has been living there since the end of September.
During this last year we increased our credit card debt to around 70k due to having to pay our mortgage with credit. Our house isn't even worth what we owe on it and we didn't even get a risky loan. So we couldn't sell it.
Plan was to get the house ready to sell over winter and list in Spring. Then join him.
So now we have my husband in Ohio... paying for him to live there. Also paying for our mortgage and our insane 1k a month in credit card bills. He makes 60.5k a year before overtime... we get a decent pay now. But it's just not enough. We are separated for nothing. His pay can't even cover all *our* bills... nevermind paying for him to live there. So something has to go. Since we need to join him there anyway we finally decided to give up the house and just go rent a house there now. Keep paying the credit cards. It would have made me feel good not to get out of all of our debt. I have always had very strong feelings about this.
But when it comes down to it... trying to pay 70k of credit card bills forever is very daunting as well. We can't afford any services for our 8yr old son with Autism. Everyone, even die hard Ramsey fans have told us that we should just do Bankruptcy and get it over with. I am at the point where I agree with them. Just have to admit that this past year ruined us but it can get better.
Now... one problem I have is this...
We can't file in Ohio until 91dys of us living there. It will be 3mos on January 1st for hubby. Not sure if it has to be both of us living there for 3mos? Anyway... we are wanting to move us there around December 1st when he gets his next paycheck. He gets paid once a month. So this means we just sit around waiting till January to file. But looking at the exemptions... it's all confusing to me. It doesn't look like Ohio has as many exemptions as Wisconsin. I wouldn't worry about this too much except for the fact I have several sewing machines. We have our laptops and my camera. I use these for my sewing business. Well, business that is more of a hobby but brings in some money. Ohio doesn't have a federal exemption which seems to make Wisconsin look better. We have a house but it is upside down... does this mean we could use the unused homestead portion towards our extra stuff? We have a minivan that we plan to reaffirm to keep making the payments on.
We aren't behind in anything. I actually was planning to stop making our credit card and house payments this month so that we could have money to move into our new rental in Ohio at the 1st of the month. We also will need money for the attorney to file in January.
But do you guys think it would be worth it to bust our butts to file before January and do it here in Wisconsin instead? Or do you think we will be ok exemptions wise in Ohio?
I'm just really nervous. We made a lot of cash advances on our cards to our bank. But we can show that we paid our mortgage and other bills from our bank so would that be proof that we didn't just use the cash for stupid stuff? We did eat fast food a lot. We were depressed Do they make a big deal about that?
What will happen if we don't have enough exemptions to use towards my sewing machines and laptop? Will they just take those?
Sorry sooo sorry this was so long. I always feel the need to give background. I still struggle with the fact we are even doing this and I don't want people thinking we just went and bought a lot of toys and now want to wipe it all around. We were just trying to stay in our house and survive
Thanks for your suggestions and opinions
ETA that I'm also confused about what happens after we stop making our payments. We will be having a lot of extra money. I know we will have money saved up for the attorney but what do I do with the rest? Because I read that we can't have it in the bank right? Would I be able to take that opportunity to buy special needs items for my child without them saying anything about it? Or will that be bad? We shouldn't have a *whole* lot of extra in two months time... but maybe 2k.
C
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