Can I vent?

[Stilltheone]

Update:

I went off and left my laptop open to this very page, and guess who sits his butt at my desk and reads it? Like I say, NO PRIVACY!
Anyway, he's upset that I had my letter notorized. Says that it was a waste of time...I said that obviously I hope that's true.
So, just to bolster my point, he goes WITH HIS DAD, not his wife, and meets another attorney. Guess what? His dad gives the guy $500, and retains him. Never mind that the guy gives DH what I feel is misinformation. What do I know? I asked DH how he was going to account for his dad paying the attorney...No clue. Oh well. I tried to help.
So, I told DH that I will prolly go ahead and file for divorce. I'll just be a girlfriend. Obviously, he doesn't need a wife.

OMG, didn't read this part before I last posted.

I would be TICKED OFF if my dh went and got an attorney without letting me be present.

Just a side note: My parents paid for our attorney, in full, without a problem. In fact, they GAVE us a check, in our name, and didn't even write it out to our attorney's office.

[GreenInkOnPaper]

All true!
I am filing for divorce -- but not moving out. Just making a point: You don't need a wife. He's not going to tell me what to do with my money. He's not going to tell me what to do with my time. And for damn sure, his 'rents aint gonna have any say in my life - period.
He's a good hearted man - just completely programmed to do mommy and daddy's will. That's not husband material. I love him to pieces and going to stick with him, just on my terms.

[No Gravy]

Thanks for letting me rip. I just get so aggravated that everything I say is wrong, he knows better, it's all my fault, blah-blah-blah. We find an attorney that we really like, but no! His dad makes an appointment with someone HE wants DH to talk to.
He works for his parents.
We live in a house owned by his parents.
His dad went to the bank and pulled MY credit. DH and dad have the same name. I'm 44 years old and find constant interference irritating.
I'm seriously thinking of filing for divorce, and I don't take that sort of thing lightly.
Now, back to our regular programming.....

Damn...I was just about to ask "Are you guys like, 18-19 years old?"

Aside from the BK issue, and the beyond-over-bearing in-laws issue, DH seems to be holding on tight to those apron strings, which allows the in-laws behavior to continue.

Good luck, hon.

[No Gravy]

Yep! I'm afraid of the same thing. Once you foreclose, you've just instantly killed the resale value of all of the surrounding homes. In a way, it's totally unfair to the people. I'd be pissed off, too, if I were to keep my home and people were foreclosing around me.

It really only matters if they're trying to sell soon, or looking to refinance. Otherwise, if they plan on living in the house as they always have, what's it to them? If all any homeowner is thinking about is resale...then that's part of the problem.

I thought I was the only one (in my neighborhood) for the longest time. Then I pulled up some information on my house, and saw 4 adjacent houses were all short-sale or foreclosures, with tons more on the surrounding streets.
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[GreenInkOnPaper]

So now he's filling out all the homework the attorney I've never met sent home with him....and he wants me to help. I handed him a slip of paper with his mother's phone number on it and suggested he call her for help. Yes, I'm evil.

[Tbornetun]

So now he's filling out all the homework the attorney I've never met sent home with him....and he wants me to help. I handed him a slip of paper with his mother's phone number on it and suggested he call her for help. Yes, I'm evil.

Not evil, I would be furious. I would have done the same thing. Is he planning on filing individually or joint? What an #$#@$. I could not live with a husband that made a decision like that without me present. If this is how it operates with the inlaws, you will be glad to be out!

[GreenInkOnPaper]

More aggravated than furious. The furious stuff has already passed. I just keep my mouth shut about all things financial. He's got his accounts, I've got mine.

[GreenInkOnPaper]

And- he's filing alone. We do own a home jointly, and I don't like the advice "his" attorney gave him.

[No Gravy]

So now he's filling out all the homework the attorney I've never met sent home with him....and he wants me to help. I handed him a slip of paper with his mother's phone number on it and suggested he call her for help. Yes, I'm evil.

Buhahahaha!!! OK, *that* plan I can get behind

The "filing divorce to get his attention"....not so much. Not that it's any of my business, and not that you asked. But this is bringing back some bad memories for me, of my ex, who is the reason I've been single since '93.

My ex was an alcoholic and a mama's boy. Never lived away from his mom until we got married. THERE WAS A REASON. There were also a lot of lessons for me in that 2-yr marriage. Lessons I wouldn't wish on anyone.

[GreenInkOnPaper]

New update:

You may remember that DH has a Focus that he is going to include in his BK. It's not running, and AGAINST my wishes, his dad had the car towed to his work place (he owns a small business). I didn't want it towed there because it's not a great area of town. Low and behold - someone smashed the driver's window last night. I hate to say "I told ya so..." but really!