Did Anyone Find Out?

[WoodSprite]

I live in a small mountain town and our mailman has been around forever (before we moved here) and he is the biggest gossip!!!

Yep, me too. Everybody knows everybody, and the mailman knows everyTHING about everybody.

I've probably given our mailman more material than he's seen since the 70's when the 200 acres surrounding us was all a big commune, and the neighbors kept building shacks out of orange crates and baling wire, then getting stoned and burning them down again.

Couple of weeks ago, we got a "victim's impact statement" questionnaire from the parole board in another state, asking us to detail for the court the impact that being carjacked has had on our lives, so that they could take that into consideration in sentencing. There it was on the outside of a gigantic envelope, big as life: "XXXXXX County Board of Parole, Criminal Court, City, State, Zip".

<sigh...> And of course, I'm such a mess that I felt compelled to "happen" to be running to the mailbox with the response just as the mailman drove by, so I could tell him that WE were the victims.

[Stilltheone]

That reminds me, wait until you get stuff directly from the BK Court and we all do - it is prominently listed in the upper left hand corner of the correspondence. It doesn't come in a private wrapper/envelope. If anyone gets your mail other than yourself, it's quite obvious what it is cause it sure isn't junk mail!

I was just going to post this!! I thought for sure my mail lady wouldn't know until I got my discharge papers....Directly on top in the left hand corner it stated: Bankruptcy Court of Wisconsin....Nice!

Most people wouldn't think I've declared bankruptcy. I have an Escalade in the garage, my daughter goes to private school and my house is 3 years old. If they do know, who cares? None of their dang business.

[liz417]

Yep, me too. Everybody knows everybody, and the mailman knows everyTHING about everybody.

I've probably given our mailman more material than he's seen since the 70's when the 200 acres surrounding us was all a big commune, and the neighbors kept building shacks out of orange crates and baling wire, then getting stoned and burning them down again.

Couple of weeks ago, we got a "victim's impact statement" questionnaire from the parole board in another state, asking us to detail for the court the impact that being carjacked has had on our lives, so that they could take that into consideration in sentencing. There it was on the outside of a gigantic envelope, big as life: "XXXXXX County Board of Parole, Criminal Court, City, State, Zip".

<sigh...> And of course, I'm such a mess that I felt compelled to "happen" to be running to the mailbox with the response just as the mailman drove by, so I could tell him that WE were the victims.

LOL!!! You are too funny! I probably would have done the same thing...

[AngelinaCat]

At this point, we don't care who knows. As a matter of fact, it gave me GREAT PLEASURE to have to tell my husbands greedy, selfish niece just last weekend "I'm sorry. But your Uncle and I cannot cosign for your new car. Our credit is shot." LOL

Heartburn, I have to add this to what you said. We learned the HARD way. Don't ever, NOT EVER cosign a note for anyone--even a family member. They have a very NASTY way of turning on you... for your generosity......

[WoodSprite]

I probably would have done the same thing...

Liz, I guess we both need a dose of Stilltheone's "none of their dang business" attitude...

[athomas]

It is tough. When we filed, I had told my former boss, as I also considered her a close friend. With me needing time off to meet with our attorney, etc., I just felt it better to be honest. As soon as it hit the paper we actually had clients come in and mention it to her.."I saw so and so and her husband filed BK..." It was awful. My boss delighted in rubbing it in my nose that people were talking. Needless to say I no longer work for her.

I would like to think that four years later most people have forgotten. People talk about us more for the accomplishments we've made since we filed than they do the actual filing.

[FreshLikeADaisy]

Most people wouldn't think I've declared bankruptcy. I have an Escalade in the garage, my daughter goes to private school and my house is 3 years old...

To be honest, I think my first thought would be that you were some bk'ers creditor.