I rent and therefore do not have to move. I have told several close friends, but no family members. My family has enough problems already, including caretaking parents who are 88 and 89 and who needs lots of help even as they live in an assisted living community. Just today, mom is in the hospital for serious heart problems and I had to take dad to an emergency appointment because of leg/bone pain that has disrupted his sleep for the past week.
My two brothers both filed for bk: one for chapter 7 and one for chapter 13. The chapter 7 brother has totally recovered and then some. My chapter 13 brother is OK. He's never done all that well financially. I worry that his home may now be upside-down. Anyway, I haven't had the heart to tell either one of them, though I am sure they would be kind.
I have told members of the 12-step group that I attend. It was my compulsion that pushed me off the cliff in the first place. (And yes, I am "sober" as I write this, have been for 10 months!) Somehow since we discuss everything openly in that group, I felt almost the need to tell folks. Telling them was definitely the right thing to do. I have felt so much support and love from them.
Addiction often involves isolation and distancing from people. I sometimes wonder if bankruptcy involves the same thing. Not literal isolation, but isolation in the sense that when things go bad, people may fail to reach out to talk to others, get good support and advice or simply fail to open up and tell others "I can't afford X."
My two brothers both filed for bk: one for chapter 7 and one for chapter 13. The chapter 7 brother has totally recovered and then some. My chapter 13 brother is OK. He's never done all that well financially. I worry that his home may now be upside-down. Anyway, I haven't had the heart to tell either one of them, though I am sure they would be kind.
I have told members of the 12-step group that I attend. It was my compulsion that pushed me off the cliff in the first place. (And yes, I am "sober" as I write this, have been for 10 months!) Somehow since we discuss everything openly in that group, I felt almost the need to tell folks. Telling them was definitely the right thing to do. I have felt so much support and love from them.
Addiction often involves isolation and distancing from people. I sometimes wonder if bankruptcy involves the same thing. Not literal isolation, but isolation in the sense that when things go bad, people may fail to reach out to talk to others, get good support and advice or simply fail to open up and tell others "I can't afford X."
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