Husband making bad matters worse - Help!

[Cali]

I think going separately would be great.

And I wasn't trying to be mean about it, but he is in the military he needs to toughen up and get on with things. Unless he wants this to be a reason why they make him get out. And that could happen.

Cali,
'I' know he doesn't need me to go with him, HE thinks he needs me to go with him. I'm not going to argue with him about not needing me. Once we go I think he'll realize that on his own. I actually think it would be nice to go separately so I can express my concerns. I know he'll minimize things when put on the spot.

Stuck,
Haven't heard fom you in a few days. Hopefully things are improving.