That you have a conference scheduled with the trustee and his atty to get to the bottom of the deed situation is *great*. As you said, bring everything you can find, and if you have it available, don't forget evidence of when the money traded hands (closing docs? canceled checks?) and when the deed itself was transferred, because you're saying there was a gap between the purchase and the recording of the deed that plays in as well.
If this attorney does show up, you can actually hand her the letter there... you know, the one that fires her. She does know about the conference, though, and may well show up regardless of her behavior toward you, because she may look pretty bad if she doesn't (these are her preofessional peers you will be meeting with).
Now, this probably goes without saying, but be professional in your manner and speech, *don't* get into this whole "nutjob hates me" thing because if it comes across badly or even as an excuse, it just makes YOU sound nuts, so avoid it. "We had some ongoing legal issues" should suffice, but if questioned further don't go into how nutty he is, keeping only to facts. If the ongoing nature of his actions against you and your family come up, stick with, "Yes, we too have been completely unable to understand his actions toward us and why he has not been satisfied with the various solutions offerred..." When you've been in a fight with a nutjob for as long as you have been, you tenfd to forget that talking about it makes *you* look like a lunatic. No, it's not fair, but that's why I say: avoid talking about him except in the barest, most impartial tone.
Same goes for this atty: if she shows, she may try to say that she had no knowledge of this deed situation. Don't argue!!! Your response should be a simple, "Sir, here we have paperwork dated ___ that shows we went over this with Ms. DeVille and she was fully informed of all the particulars surrounding this deed transfer." That's the winning position. If she lies, ignore her. Do not speak to her. Do not try to argue her into fessing up. Again, this looks weak and desperate. Just calmly hand your docs to the trustee's atty with a simply stated line about what they are, and let it go. By ignoring her and not engaging her at all, if she lies her deceit is much clearer to a third party. If you fight with her openly, you actually lend credence to her dishonesty. Don't make this mistake!
I mean no offense at all; I just know how it is to go up against people like this, and the winning way is *always* to be the one who says the least, with the least emotion, and has the biggest stack of papers.
You'll do just fine. I wish you well!!!
If this attorney does show up, you can actually hand her the letter there... you know, the one that fires her. She does know about the conference, though, and may well show up regardless of her behavior toward you, because she may look pretty bad if she doesn't (these are her preofessional peers you will be meeting with).
Now, this probably goes without saying, but be professional in your manner and speech, *don't* get into this whole "nutjob hates me" thing because if it comes across badly or even as an excuse, it just makes YOU sound nuts, so avoid it. "We had some ongoing legal issues" should suffice, but if questioned further don't go into how nutty he is, keeping only to facts. If the ongoing nature of his actions against you and your family come up, stick with, "Yes, we too have been completely unable to understand his actions toward us and why he has not been satisfied with the various solutions offerred..." When you've been in a fight with a nutjob for as long as you have been, you tenfd to forget that talking about it makes *you* look like a lunatic. No, it's not fair, but that's why I say: avoid talking about him except in the barest, most impartial tone.
Same goes for this atty: if she shows, she may try to say that she had no knowledge of this deed situation. Don't argue!!! Your response should be a simple, "Sir, here we have paperwork dated ___ that shows we went over this with Ms. DeVille and she was fully informed of all the particulars surrounding this deed transfer." That's the winning position. If she lies, ignore her. Do not speak to her. Do not try to argue her into fessing up. Again, this looks weak and desperate. Just calmly hand your docs to the trustee's atty with a simply stated line about what they are, and let it go. By ignoring her and not engaging her at all, if she lies her deceit is much clearer to a third party. If you fight with her openly, you actually lend credence to her dishonesty. Don't make this mistake!
I mean no offense at all; I just know how it is to go up against people like this, and the winning way is *always* to be the one who says the least, with the least emotion, and has the biggest stack of papers.
You'll do just fine. I wish you well!!!
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